Back out of an offer?

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March 30,2022 at 3:32AM UTC

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Back out of an offer?

I recently accepted a great job offer, then my mother wound up with serious health issues and is temporarily in a nursing home. About the time I'm supposed to start the new job, I'll be needing to figure out her housing situation (continued skilled nursing or assisted living), sell her home and car, empty it the house, etc. I haven't given notice yet and I know my current job will be very accommodating. I don't feel it's fair to start a new job with so many distractions and likely the need to take a lot of time off. Can I rescind the acceptance?

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Vesela KrastevaMarch 30,2022 at 9:12AM UTC
Call the new employer and tell them about the situation. Tell them that you are thinking about rejecting the offer now because of your personal situation which you haven't known about when you have accepted the offer. They might be flexible and agree that you start on a later date so you have time to deal with your personal situation, or they might offer you some flexibility during the first few weeks. If they cannot offer some flexibility then reject the offer and stay with your current employer.
AnonymousMarch 30,2022 at 11:25AM UTC
Of course. Life happens and you need to attend to your family and personal priorities.
It's absolutely the right and honorable thing to do. The company has plenty of other options. Just let them know if your decision asap so that they can move to another candidate. In this market they need to make arrangements fast.
I'm sorry to hear about your mom. She is lucky to have you. And you are lucky to have your current job that will accommodate your need for this personal transition.
CrystalMarch 31,2022 at 1:19AM UTC
I agree with the other two post. I would let them know as soon as possible though. You never know they may be very understanding and offer to work with you