This won't be a popular post, and I am well prepared to receive the blowback that will be coming. Study after study shows that the main reason that women are not earning as much as men in the same profession is because women are the ones that take a break or pause their careers to raise the children in a family.
That being said, they have gaps that men will not have in their resumés. Instead of falling on the blame game sword, I take it as a challenge to outperform, even with the gaps that are naturally created with having three children. Is it fair? Of course that's another conversation. But it is the only thing that works in the current job market.
It is possible to have a great job/family balance, you simply have to work for it instead of just hoping it will fall into your lap. Start with a frank and honest conversation with your partner before anything is even necessary. Many women are amazed to discover that their husbands had completely different ideas about how their lives would proceed.
Next, don't falter. Every plan will need adjustments. You may have to decide that your husband will be the one to stay at home , it all depends on your personal situation. Next, do the thing that brought you into the job that you have and excel at it.
There may come a time when you would like to step back from your career, that's only going to happen with more frank and honest conversations with your partner.
But maintaining your presence in some way in your chosen field will make work/family transitions easier, and keep you from believing that you aren't earning as much as a man is in the same profession.
There aren't any limitations on women in the workforce that we cannot overcome ourselves.
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Sunday Scaries "wine session" - After being in the the same career for over 18 years, including one position for 8 years with 2 promotions, in 2017 I left that field and have been trying to figure out what I have wanted ever since.
I have tried a career coach, volunteering, upskilling, networking . . . and am currently in therapy . . . nothing is sticking. I have switched roles 6 times in 6 years. I have also done freelancing and tried starting my own business. And the job I have now is sucking the life out of me. I have only been there for 9 months.
Not one to whine . . . and yet here I am.
I can see the appeal of a mindless job that just pays the bills and I never have to think about a "career" again . . . am I giving up??
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I live in rural West Virginia, master's level counselor/therapist with lots of experience and great references, but no license.
I'm 76 years old: too old to go back to school for 2 years and then do the 3000 hours of supervision. I work remotely for a toxic company; along with others haven't been paid in over 2 months. I love helping my clients but the $$$ issue is eating away at my peace of mind. I've interviewed several places, but lack of licensure is a hurdle. Ideas on how to get out of this trap really appreciated.
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For those who identify as female, what “traditions” exist today within the world of work that need to be removed or updated?
For background, I'm a cisgender white male looking to find ways to become a stronger ally through action and priviledge.
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Any advice on how to generate writing samples for a content writer position if you are transitioning from another career path?
(I am a transitioning English teacher, so I have plenty of writing experience, but nothing that would be suitable for a writing sample.)
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Why is that we are not allowed to bring up salary until after offer acceptance, but yet companies can ask what the range is that we are looking for right in the application?
How is that legal? If it's not a numerically required field, what is the best verbiage for how to get around it?
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I have a bossy coworker (male) who has usurped by (female) boss's authority previously, and attempted to do it again today.
He has derailed work meetings by questioning me, and my boss doesn't interfere or interrupt at all. She didn't question his previous action, which basically took a job duty away from me and appropriated it for himself. I asked her about it, and whether it was permanent. She indicated (vaguely) that it wasn't, but she didn't seem too worried about it. It was his area of expertise, so I let it go. If he wants to reduce my workload, I'll just spend that time posting to FGB!
He sent an email today, cc'ing her, and gave me some orders outside of his wheelhouse. I spent at least an hour writing a draft that detailed my level of knowledge and how I didn't need to do what he insisted on, then decided to simply say I'll do whatever our boss says in a reply-all response.
The other email would have been sent to my boss's boss and someone else in the organization who supervises my stakeholders, and the supervisor of my stakeholders.... and I wanted to cc' others as well.
But I felt that would have been a jerk move response to a jerk move.
I'm proud of myself for standing up for myself and keeping it brief, but now I know I really need to discuss it with my boss, and she doesn't have time for this nonsense.
What would your next step be, hive mind?