I have a very toxic boss who literally berated me in front of other employees and my union steward was there never once defended me.
February 27,2021 at 2:41AM UTC
I had just came back from a medical leave for 3 months after my mother passed and was very depressed and while I was off on sick leave I tested positive for covid-19 and had a severe case. So for the last 3 months after having covid-19 my breathing has been severely bad ever since.
So after coming back to work he berated me in front of other employees like it's about time you came back I'm going to get some work out of you. So the 2nd day he put me on the crane witches a very physical job. So all I said to him was this is only my 2nd day back and my breathing is terrible but I'm not refusing to do the job. His response to me in front of a union official was for me to excuse my language go the F---; home and pointing to the door and my response was for what? And he said for not wanting to do the job, pointing his finger in my face and being very disrespectful and making me feel worse. He was telling a blatent lie because I've never been talked to like this and I've been employed there for 24 years and have never refused work but he had no sympathy or empathy on his actions.
I did report him to the union and nothing was done. Since that day after just returning to work I had to use 2 of my vacation days and I felt like total crap, like not sleeping worrying about going back into this toxic work place I've been through so much these last few months and have had counseling to get me through my depression and was looking forward to get back some sort of normalcy but now my anxiety has gotten the best of me these past few days I'm not sure what to do. I feel like I'm at the end of my rope with this toxic individual, so could anyone give me any advice on what to, do lost in Michigan.
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