I'm a copywriter, so most of my time is spent talking about how to convince other people to do things - all their motivations, fears, secret desires, and beliefs folded into each paragraph.
Words are powerful y'all, but the most powerful in my (and your) arsenal is NO.
I'm a compulsive yesser (yes, I made that up) and for years I felt like every no meant I was disappointing someone. (Will they still like me? Will they still trust me? Am I a bad person for not wanting to?)
The problem was I spent all that time frustrating, disappointing, and maxing out myself!
I still struggle with it sometimes, of course, but shifting the emphasis off of how others felt and checking in with myself was a pretty epic move. Rather than focusing on the the no, I focused on the silent yes (aka the yes to myself).
Have you been secretly waiting for permission to say yes to yourself? Well, this is it.
On that note, I'd like to leave you with this excerpt from Dr. Brene Brown:
"We could all stand to be more generous, but we also need to maintain our integrity and our boundaries. I call the solution to this issue living big; boundaries, integrity and generosity.
Here is the question:
What boundaries do I need to put in place so I can work from a place from integrity and extend the most generous interpretations of the intentions, words and actions of others?"