I'm a copywriter, so most of my time is spent talking about how to convince other people to do things - all their motivations, fears, secret desires, and beliefs folded into each paragraph.
Words are powerful y'all, but the most powerful in my (and your) arsenal is NO.
I'm a compulsive yesser (yes, I made that up) and for years I felt like every no meant I was disappointing someone. (Will they still like me? Will they still trust me? Am I a bad person for not wanting to?)
The problem was I spent all that time frustrating, disappointing, and maxing out myself!
I still struggle with it sometimes, of course, but shifting the emphasis off of how others felt and checking in with myself was a pretty epic move. Rather than focusing on the the no, I focused on the silent yes (aka the yes to myself).
Have you been secretly waiting for permission to say yes to yourself? Well, this is it.
On that note, I'd like to leave you with this excerpt from Dr. Brene Brown:
"We could all stand to be more generous, but we also need to maintain our integrity and our boundaries. I call the solution to this issue living big; boundaries, integrity and generosity.
Here is the question:
What boundaries do I need to put in place so I can work from a place from integrity and extend the most generous interpretations of the intentions, words and actions of others?"
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I recently was laid off from my job of 7+ years.
I sort of fell into the role, and I'm not sure if it's what I want to continue doing. The issue is, it's fairly difficult to break into a new industry when all of my professional experience is in another field. I'm not even quite sure what direction I'd like to go in, but I'm really fed up with the corporate world, and would really like to explore other options. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
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Recently I have been in a transition in my life circumstances and I find myself looking for a 10 hr a week job.
I'm not even sure how to go about this. Any suggestions?
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I have an interview tomorrow and the place i am interviewing with wants me to fill out an "Acknowledgement of Education and Experience Verification" form that requires for me to select 1 of 2 options: 1) Yes, my current employer does know that I am interviewing and the agency's Human Resources office has my permission to verify my work, both performance and experience, with my current employer at this time OR 2) No, I do not wish to have the agency's Human Resources Office contact my present employer at this time.
If i am selected for a position and accept, I understand that my current employer will then be asked to verify my experience.
I currently work for a Temp agency and my Recruiter (contact at my agency) knows I am going to be interviewing tomorrow at the place I am interviewing at; however, the job I am on a Temporary assignment for does not know. Based on the form and options I have to choose from above, should I tell the company I am doing a Temporary assignment for that I am interviewing for the agency tomorrow? Apparently, they have to verify my work (consisting of performance and experience) with my current job. I don't want to have to worry about them telling me not to come back because they know I took off of work to interview for a job. Does anyone have any helpful advice?
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I’m a back up person
I recently started this new job back in October. I was assigned accounts and I have my own task well they had me back up person to this girl and now they are having me back up to this guy who is planning on leaving for a month. I’m still so much a newbie I haven’t at all picked up speed to do my work and cover someone else’s work. My last job did this too me as well but it was when lay offs happened. I was a back up person and got cross trained doing other task. My job ended up being a mesh of 3 different jobs no extra pay or a job title change. I’m starting to have fear it’s going to happen again. I experienced severe burn out that made me feel like I was going crazy. What can I do to prevent that from happening?
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I'm looking to make no less than $22/hr.
Should I still list that amount even if the job posting the pay is $25/hr?
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It’s easier said than done to speak up at work—the irony.
This may feel especially true for women who need to navigate how to be assertive without worrying about appearing abrasive. After all, research suggests that women who use their voices at work (and break free from passive, people-pleasing gender role norms) can be labeled unlikable, which can take a toll on their careers. But keeping quiet can be even more damaging.
Join us for a discussion with Cornerstone—a leading cloud-based people development software provider—on how to handle this double-bind.
When: Wednesday, Dec 6, 2023
Where: Virtual at 12 PM ET
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