Adult chameleons have the ability to change their color as needed, which is a fitting analogy for being a successful leader–specifically from an emotional intelligence (EI) perspective. If we think about the ability to change colors as needed we can relate that to self-management a personal competency of EI. Self-management is the ability to manage your emotional reactions to people and situations. Like a chameleon, it means staying flexible and managing behavioral and emotional tendencies in a variety of situation as needed. With the unprecedented use of technologies to stay connected and video conferencing platforms, self-management is an ever increasing skill to develop and use effectively to be a successful leader. Remember, female leaders excel in self-management.
4 tips to increase self-management:
1. Create awareness around your emotions and tendencies when under stress. Are you quick to react or express yourself? Do you let your emotions rule your behavior? Are you quick to lose composure?
2. Filter thoughts and emotions before speaking.
3. Don’t add negativity or heighten emotions in a stressful situation, diffuse or deescalate the situation.
4. Become aware of how your thoughts and feelings translate into facial expressions. Often facial expressions are revealed before we speak.