I have recently left a job where I had gone from hero to zero.
March 3,2021 at 6:33PM UTC
I had been there a year before another woman was employed. Before she started I had been seen as a employee who was trustworthy, used initiative, progressive, an effective leader, an asset, and being trained by the manager to step into their role. I was happy with work and the people I worked with.
This woman had worked as a temp and seemed okay. She did the job. But something was bothering me about employing her as a permanent. I had a feeling she was untrustworthy, however, no evidence to support it to be able to say why. So in the end she was employed permanently. And that is where the fun began.
As I was in a higher position than her and my responsibility to make sure jobs were completed. She would deliberately pretend to not hear me, do something different, not do it at all, or would want to have an argument. Anything to not do her job. All the time comments of how she knew better than me, she knew it all and had been in our profession a lot longer than me, therefore, I was the one who had to do it to learn. She would lie that she didn't know what we did when I had spent one on one time with her showing and explaining our processes. She would lie about doing things when she hadn't. When I wasn't at work, I would just know that she had been talking to the other team members to get them against me. In talking with her I had to speak with a stern voice which is not how I talk and very uncomfortable with.
Concerned on how this would affect the team, I spoke with my manager was it me or what could I do. She said she was having the same problem and it was not me. Everytime the manager had to have a serious talk to this woman about her behavior, attitude, and lack of team work she would deflect, lie, or come up with a personal problem that was affecting her. So nothing got solved. This went on for several months. The manager asked that I kept her informed and she would help me because she could see the situation and agreed about that woman. Nothing could be achieved as this woman couldn't cope or just wouldn't do her job. Everyone else on the team worked well together.
Until one day, I got called into the office and told the reason why this woman wasn't doing her job well was because I was bullying and harassing her. Because that what she said was APPARENTLY happening. I was immediately silenced, told I was not a good leader and not to bother the manager anymore.
I was stunned and wondered where I had gone wrong. Had I done all of those things. Sure we had arguments but then she argued with everyone else. Other team members spoke to the manager with the same concerns. I am unsure how it got to be so targeted at me.
I wonder if it was because she knew I was on to her and knew she should have been let go within her trial period. And lots of evidence as to why of which the manager agreed. But somehow couldn't do it. And it was left up to me to talk to this woman about her work performance. Maybe, I should have said nothing but then I do have expectations that a professional who is an adult will do the job. I don't expect to be following them up. I also did a lot of professional development to understand myself and this situation.
So, in being silenced this woman continued being unreliable and untrustworthy and I was not allowed to say or do anything. It was demoralising. I slowly came to a stop and just did the minimum to get through. I was the second person to leave because of her. My feeling was spot on when I found out she had been let go from a previous job for the same reasons.
When realising this woman was still being allowed to continue with the support of the manager, I made the decision to leave. I had gone from hero to zero. Other team members begged me to stay and it should be that woman who was leaving. Clients were genuinely sad that I was leaving and some said they didn't like her. I was glad to be leaving the angry vibe she had created.
So I have gone from a secure job with a future to now just temping. I still cry and get angry of what I have lost, the impact it has had on my health, family, and finances. I know I need to go through the emotions to be able to heal and it may take some time. I am considering leaving the profession that I have a natural gift and joy for because I feel so hurt. I cannot understand why a manager would support a liability and not the asset. I cannot understand why the manager automatically believed everything this woman said about me even when she would have known it was not true. These questions may never have answers and I may just have to accept that it was about those two people and not me. I cannot understand why it was me who had to leave and lose out on my career. I know I am not someone who bullies and harasses people so find it hard to have been given those labels. I had to sit silent while she continued to talk about me to the manager and then listening to the cryptic messages from the manager about my performance and attitude.
When I was leaving the manager said I was an asset to the company and had achieved a lot.
I am glad to be out of that toxic environment and have enjoyed temping which is allowing me to be who I am and receiving positive feedback. And holding onto a belief that life works out the way it does for a reason and the sense of loss will one day dissappear.
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