Im wondering if a supervisor (who I do not report to) is upset with me or if I’m over reacting.
March 11,2021 at 12:37AM UTC
I’ll try to explain each situation, but I do know it’s hard to do without the entire context. But I’ll start with the first situation and continue. For a little additional information - I work for a company that implements utilities conservation improvement programs. I sort of oversee what we call direct install (it’s the installation/implementation) of energy efficient materials. I mostly manage inventory, scheduling and the employees that get sent out to do the install. I do not manage the larger programs that the direct install is part of.
1. we were in a meeting and my colleague mentioned recommending something to a customer. I pointed out that we can do that as a direct install measure and claim the savings. This supervisor then asks me (with my boss and current manager of the program we’re talking about) why my colleague didn’t know about this measure. I was a little taken aback as to why it was my responsibility, and didn’t respond (probably a good thing since I was pissed) but my boss stepped in and just mentioned that he had shared the statement of work (which included this as a measure) with my colleague. I also looked up a past message in the program channel and my boss had made a note for everyone to see there. But yet I still was asked why my colleague didn’t know about this change?
2. One of my direct reports told me that they were doing a site visit with one of this supervisors direct reports. My direct report is really busy this week and honestly it’s not an ideal time. I sent a message to him and my boss and just asked that I be kept in the loop when these things happen so I can effectively manage and help my employees prioritize as needed, and help manage if there is any follow up work. He responded by saying “please take this up with your boss, I asked him and got approval” I responded and said “I’m fine if it’s already been approved, I’m just asking to be kept in the loop moving forward. (My boss (he’s new to managing me since December) has done this a couple times in the last week - had my direct reports do something and I didn’t even know about it until they told me... I’m fine if they do it, it’s just frustrating I’m not being kept in the loop. My old boss always ran things by me, and usually asked me to help make sure they were on top of it) so I messaged my boss privately and just asked if he’s going to be assigning my direct reports projects to keep me in the loop - he responded only to the situation from the other channel - “your direct report had asked me about it and I said yes, I didn’t think you weren’t in the loop.” I’m not confused on what is what - is the other supervisor lying about asking for approval? Or counting my direct report as asking for him?
3. today I had a scheduling snafu when one of my direct reports only just told me today that he has a doctor appointment tomorrow and can’t work (he’s a whole other issue, but don’t worry about that now). We were doubled up on installs (unusual) and a lot of people are out doing site visits, I’m 9 months pregnant, had a doctors appointment myself tomorrow, and can’t really take being on my feet all day at this point. So I send a message to both my boss and this supervisor asking if they can think of anyone that is available. Only the other supervisor responds and gives me someone. I reached out to them around noon - they seemed like they didn’t really want to do it and said they would get back to me. I gave him a couple hours - still hadn’t heard anything - sent a message back to my boss and supervisor and said I hadn’t heard anything and asked if they had someone else I could check with. Crickets. Ok another hour goes by. I message the original guy and say I don’t mean to rush you, but can you let me know soon, I want to try and figure this out by the end of the day. Still nothing. It’s 4:45 (I was done working at 3:30 and hadn’t heard anything from anyone) and I message the supervisor and my boss again and say I haven’t heard anything - is someone else available? And the supervisor responds - “they’re (my colleagues) on the road right now, your patience is appreciated” now I know that sounds like a totally polite response, but I have been waiting for 5 hours just to get an answer if someone is available and it was the end of the day. Something needed to be figured out. It’s possible that this supervisor messaged his direct report because a minute later he messaged me. I could tell that he didn’t want to do it and he sounded busy, but he said his boss (the supervisor) really wanted him to do it. I told him I would check with a different colleague - who did end up being available. The reason I didn’t ask this colleague before was because he’s not my direct report, he reports to my boss and I figured if my boss wanted to use him then he would have told me - but I was in a pinch and gave up on trying to respect the chain of command. Anyways I tell the other colleague that I got someone else to do it. I then message back to my boss and this supervisor and tell them that I got my coworker to do it but he’ll just be a little late (he had a meeting in the morning). The supervisor then proceeds to put screenshots of the messages between me and his direct report in the chat and doesn’t say anything else... I have no idea what the purpose was and just felt this was very aggressive.
4. I was asked to give a presentation 1.5 hours) about our process flows for one of the two main programs I work with (and 80% of our company does not) I had been in a lot of meetings lately that keep getting derailed by tangents and going over time so I started this meeting by explaining in order to keep on track and be respectful of everyone’s time that I had broken the presentation into sections for each step and had stopping points for questions because I would likely answer most of them if they just waited. I did ask that if they had anything they wanted to ask right away they could put it in the chat, or raise their hand in teams and I would answer the question from the chat if I knew I wouldn’t cover that, or I would call on them when I finished my slide. The supervisor immediately said -“ I’m not going to do that, it’s too formal, if I have a question I’m just going to ask it.” I said “I’m not eliminating the opportunity to ask questions, I’m just asking that you wait to ask since I’ll probably cover most of it. If you really have to ask, you can.”
i then proceeded, this supervisor proceeded to interrupt and ask questions before I could get to certain things, at the beginning my boss tried to steer things back to me. But it didn’t really work. After an hour (I had only maybe talked for 20 minutes) I had got through 1 of my 5 sections, and this supervisor asks “this is great and all, but are we done? Are we going to the other program” I asked for clarification and then responded that I’ve only been through one portion and I also stated at the beginning of the meeting that I was only discussing this one program today. I then started into the next section, got maybe 2 slides in and he proceeded to start asking questions (which if they waited I would have covered) and the meeting just got thrown into a tangent and I didn’t finish.
since that meeting I’ve had several of my coworkers bring up that it was a rough meeting and I think they just recognized this supervisor was being overly aggressive and disrespectful of my time.
I just would like some input if I’m being sensitive or if this boss is being a jerk. I know this was a long post, but this is just a few of the recent interactions and I’m really starting to get worn down and I don’t know what to do. I’m looking forward to maternity leave just to get a break...
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