Need some advice on how to navigate my toxic female boss with scarcity mindset.
October 2,2023 at 2:11PM UTC
Shes been promoted about 3-4 times over the last few years and is now a VP. She's a terrible female leader who is insecure and has scaricty mindset when it comes to opportunities. She also has BS'd her way to the top and her opinion never gets questioned despite feedback from several people about they way she treats women. She's undermining, controlling, gets jealous when other females do well, hijacks credit for work and puts her name on all the media opportunities even though she does nothing, etc. There are several issues here. One being that male leadership encourages the behavior and that she goes unquestioned, thus never held accountable. The other is the behavior itself (Which i dont anticipate will change. She is out for herself and herself only.) I've had to go outside my team to find other stretch goals and opportunities and have built other female allies in the company but my growth is limited because of my boss. She adds zero value to my work and has no subject matter expertise other than talking like she knows what she's doing. Question I'd like to pose to this group is, is it time to jump ship? Or are there any other suggestions out there from women who have dealt with this same kind of boss? I've tried providing feedback to her boss and it falls on deaf ears. I've tried talking to her 1:1 and it gets dismissed or she talks a big game like she'll pull me into more opportunities and then nothing happens.
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Anyway, I'm taking ACTION.
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