It has been my passion for the past six years to help victims of bullying to find their voice. I even have a logo that says that! However, over the past several days, I have had two opportunities to use my voice to make a difference, and I didn't because of my concerns for the social norms. This morning, after swimming at the Y, I was getting in my car and saw a young man cross the parking lot, spitting (a big one!) on the ground. I wanted to say, "Dude! It's a pandemic? Spitting where the public is walking? Just don't!" And because I didn't want to start a scene and felt I didn't have the authority to intervene, I said nothing. When I got home, and no longer was fueled by emotions, I realized I COULD have said, "Hey -- don't forget! We have a pandemic here. Spitting is really not okay in public right now." I could have said it out of a place of love and teaching instead of emotion. But man it is so hard! I had another experience on Saturday that I wrote about on my blog (link here if interested) about not intervening to help someone out of control because my own emotions were not in control yet. But doing nothing is not ok. And fear of breaking hidden social rules cannot be what drives our decisions. So, how do you deal with your own emotions when trying to right something that is wrong?