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Anonymous
02/17/20 at 5:59PM UTC
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Not the Job for Me

This may sound crazy, but I started a job 2 wks ago in a sr. living facility and I know it's not the job for me. The facility is going through a lot of changes due to new ownership. From what I've gathered through training at other facilities w/in our network, the parent company has a tendency to buy new properties and fire their sr. level staff. In my current bldg, the director was fired. I received mixed info about the firing, and there's been a lot of gossiping in the halls about it from both old and new staff even after the interim director spoke w/ staff to "clear things up." There have been a lot of higher ups from the new parent company in the bldg., which is understandable w/ a take over, and they've all been friendly, but I also hear what goes on behind closed doors as my office is right next to the director's office and it's nothing nice. There's a lot of fake smiling and playing nice. Maybe it shouldn't matter to me much, but I just came from a toxic environment so I have no desire to go down that road again. The position that I'm in was vacant for about 2 wks. prior to me starting, but it doesn't look like anything was done for awhile. I'm getting a lot of calls from vendors saying that the bills are past due 4-6 months. One of my employees let me know that the person who was previously in my position did not get along well w/ the director and it ultimately became too much. But the director has been since let go as well. There's paperwork and files everywhere. The position is 2 positions in one-HR and finance, and seems to have been a dumping position for the other managers who were here prior to the take over. For example, I had a manager from another department ask me to order business cards. No disrespect, but I'm not an administrative assistant, and the person has access to the site to order business cards and should and can order their own. When I referred the individual to the site, he responded that the previous person used to just take care of those things. Maybe she did, maybe she didn't, I don't know, but I checked w/ the interim director and he agreed that the manager could order them himself and have it come out of his budget. I also found out that I'd be expected to work weekends as part of a management rotation every 8 weeks. That doesn't work for me at all, as I use my weekends to attend church, take trips, or just relax. I know transitions can be difficult and so can being new, but this is more chaotic than I expected, and the position isn't what I thought either. Though it's a sr. management position, it doesn't feel that way, and the tasks don't match the job description. I just feel like I'm drowning. I have a training schedule, but even that's inconsistent due to the constant interruptions or the internet being down every other hour which slows down progress. It seems that there were little rules in place before or that policies weren't followed, and so people did what they wanted or not. Not sure what to do at this point. I'm still job searching, but it's going to be hard to get time off to interview when I've been here such a short amount of time.

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Emme Wilson-Boggs
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02/20/20 at 4:22PM UTC
This might sound counter-intuitive, but have you considered that this might be an opportunity to re-shape your position into something you can control, since things are in such flux and transition? With all the upper level changes happening, you have the chance to recast the position into one you can create and adjust, especially if you have any influence. On the other hand, if you feel your suggestions are falling on deaf ears and no one is open to ideas or planning, it makes sense to stay but continue seeking other employment. Sounds like you have some big decisions coming. Best wishes in this experience.
Anonymous
02/20/20 at 4:16PM UTC
I just had almost the same experience. I was hired Facetime from California to take a job in Raleigh, North Carolina. It turned out to be very toxic and not at all what the position was supposed to be. It was so toxic I couldn't take it and just left. It was scary not knowing how long I would be out of work but it was only two weeks. I start a new job Monday. I could not afford to be out of work just a week, so I understand the financial aspect of it. If you have no cushion, try and deal with it and spend all your time applying and doing the best you can to interview. A lot of employers will understand your position and make arrangements to interview after hours. The only other option is to take a leap of faith. I feel your pain. Things always seem to work out so, as perfectly said above "breathe." Good luck!
JULES HOROWITZ
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02/20/20 at 1:27PM UTC
Firstly, breathe. This is a whole lot for you to take in. I would suggest start looking immediately and take note of all the things you didn’t think to ask about or research before accepting this role. Even if taking time off or using all your time will be difficult that’s ok, because you don’t plan on staying. Joining any organization during influx is hard even on the most senior professionals but it sounds like there is also a lack of clarity around the financial stability and culture. Take the opportunity to outline what you believe needs to get done and what you can accomplish during the next month. This way you will feel good about the work you are doing. Share the overview with your director and ensure you agree on what is included in your roles and responsibilities. It’s ok to leave, trust your gut.
Lynne Cogan
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02/19/20 at 4:13PM UTC
Yikes. That is not a good start. Corinadenov is very correct about being able to leave this job off of your resume. A gap of up to three months between positions is not going to be of consequence. Therefore, you could stay for a while longer and interview during off hours. Or if you decide to leave, you can use the time to improve your hirability. For instance, you can take courses to learn new technology, get a certification, write a book, mentor, consult, volunteer doing HR for a non-profit while looking for a job. Any of these can help you grow and be included on your resume. And next time, if you don't already do so, consider having informational interviews with employees, former employees, customers, vendors, strategic partners of the prospective employer to determine what the culture and level of functionality is before saying "yes" to a job offer.
Corina
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02/17/20 at 8:48PM UTC
This sounds awful! I don't know your personal financial situation, but if it allows you to stay unemployed, I would honestly just quit and look for another job in peace. You can just not add this position to your resume so it won't affect you. On the other hand, not being employed while looking for a job, can work against you during negotiations, but it all depends on what you are looking for and how achievable your goals are (job market, salary, etc.). But, from my personal experience, moving away from a toxic environment does actually speed up the process of finding a new job because you won't be overwhelmed by negative energy. Hope this helps.

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