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Anonymous
08/03/18 at 5:37PM UTC
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Why are women still so awful to each other?!?!?

I have a peer, and she is so competitive and unfriendly. It's 2018. Why does it have to be this way??

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Anonymous
08/03/18 at 9:54PM UTC
somewhere, somewhere down the line, someone taught this woman what she's doing and made her think it's okay. It's not okay.
Anonymous
08/03/18 at 8:43PM UTC
am i missing something? i thought this whole discussion is about women?
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08/05/18 at 1:06AM UTC
So did I, but I think this person who had to fire a lot of people just happened to be toxic and awful happened to be a woman. So like the person who said this above -- why should it matter that she was a woman? Her gender doesn't seem to have anything to do with the underlying story.
Anonymous
08/03/18 at 8:31PM UTC
why is it always women you're referring to? What's wrong with you?
Anonymous
08/03/18 at 8:25PM UTC
Okay, here's my thing. I had a wonderful job that I loved. I reported to genuinely smart, motivated and good-willed people. Then, they hired in a woman to take over and "straighten people out." Over the course of 18 months, she "reduced" the staff by more than 150 people... not by actually laying them off, or outright firing them, but by systematically creating a hostile work environment that was so incredibly toxic that nearly 70 people quit within 6 months. Without severance, or any kind of appreciation for the years (and sometimes decades of work). She was by far, the most evil, nasty destructive being to ever cross this Earth. I wish her nothing but pain, sorrow and suffering for the rest of her miserable existence. So, 10 years later, call me jaded. But I have ZERO patience, empathy or understanding for women who pretend to be the saving grace of a company, only to come in and completely obliterate the lives, careers and work of dozens of hardworking, honest and genuinely good people. If you work for a horrible person now, they are not changing. They will be empowered by the meek, whining, shy and scared people who back down and take it. Don't be one of those people. Stand up for yourself, for your coworkers and your company. If you don't, you'll be me, 10 years later, still desperately regretting not taking her down when I had the chance.
Anonymous
08/03/18 at 7:41PM UTC
I think the issue with your comment is actually just that you're generalizing. SOME Women are awful to women. SOME men are awful to women. SOME people are just awful. Expecting more out of someone just because they're a woman is some kind of weird standard I don't think makes sense and is possibly even a bit sexist to begin with unless its prefaced with some explanation / claim that women should somehow to be held to a higher standard when dealing with someone of the same gender.
Anonymous
08/03/18 at 8:42PM UTC
i would say this person is just saying the same thing, man or woman. Stand up for yourself. Men and women, bullies, are empowered by people who just take it. So, don't take it.
Anonymous
08/03/18 at 8:04PM UTC
YES. You said it, sister.
Anonymous
08/03/18 at 7:12PM UTC
Oh, please. It's time for each and every one of us to stand up and say exactly what we feel. There is no value whatsoever in trying to reason with a horrible person. They are that way for a reason, and trying to negotiate niceness and common decency is a LOST CAUSE. Rotten people, men OR women, deserve to be called out, whether it's passively or aggressively. I happen to be a VERY nice person, thank you very much.
Anonymous
08/03/18 at 7:15PM UTC
Calling people rotten is rotten.
Anonymous
08/03/18 at 6:56PM UTC
Um... newsflash. You sound like you're the woman being awful to other woman here.
Anonymous
08/03/18 at 6:57PM UTC
Haha, I was going to say the same thing!
Anonymous
08/03/18 at 6:54PM UTC
My guess? She is EXTREMELY insecure. My blunt advice? MESS WITH HER. Validate her fears about herself. Drive her out. Call her a BIG BULLY. And laugh every day because she will always think you are laughing at her. Seriously, you don't have to take it. It's 2018.

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