One of my direct reports just shared with me that she had a miscarriage and asked for some time off. To make matters worse, this is her 4th miscarriage, and this pregnancy took longer than the other 3. She was really excited this time because she thought this one would work out.
She is really overwhelmed and asked me to take a few days off, which I will definitely provide. But in addition, I work with a lot of women who are starting families, and she is leading the charge on throwing a baby shower for another one of my direct reports who is 8 months pregnant, and the baby shower is next week. I offered to take over the shower itself, but she was really excited about hosting it, and doesn't want people to know what happened to her just yet.
I know she is saying she can do it and she's still excited about throwing this shower, but I worry this will be too much for her, and it may be very emotionally overwhelming.
Does anyone have any advice how to support her during her time of loss, my other direct report during her time of joy, and not overwhelm anyone in the process????