Coworker we were talking about may or may not have seen it...
I'm an individual contributor on a small team of 6, and we have weekly team meetings with our boss included, to catch up and discuss current topics in our industry. After one of these meetings, my female coworker sent me a message on Slack (and it was the wrong channel - which I didn't notice, I simply responded when I saw it). She was calling out something a male coworker shared during the meeting and was somewhat critical of the work that he showed. I said that this was work we had done collaboratively as a team, last year. Her point was that there was something in the work that wasn't right and should have been addressed. In my final response I mentioned the person's name and that they didn't ask for help yet again (implication being that it is our area of expertise and he should have asked for help but never did, and it's weird because we're on the same team. It should not be an issue to say "Hey I need help with this, can you take a look?" We're all friendly on our team and generally help each other when needed). I have tried in the past to gently offer assistance, but am never taken up on the offer. I think he wants to be proactive and handle it himself without anyone's help. So he often ends up showing work that isn't as good as it could be, though nobody else seems to offer feedback for improvement.
Anyway I deleted the entire conversation. It is no longer visible and cannot be recovered at this point. Our conversation was probably up for five minutes and it was posted at 5:05 pm when most people have logged out anyway; and many are on vacation or leave. Important to note that two other members in this channel are our boss, and the person we were talking about. They may or may not have seen it -- I have no idea right now. My female colleague and I didn't say anything "disparaging" or offensive, just that the person didn't ask for help.
For a bit more context, there aren't a lot of members in this channel, and I think they'd probably be confused as to the conversation appearing there because they would have little to no context as to what was said...and again, we didn't say anything disparaging. I doubt I'd hear anything about this from them. But for the guy who we were talking about, he may feel bad that he was the subject of our dismay - and this is the part that I feel terrible about. He's a nice guy, but really needs to ask for help when it's offered.
I'm wondering if I should just not mention it to anyone and see if it comes up in the future -- and how to best handle it if it does come up?
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As a contractor, there is no EDD, no Labor Board and no attorney to help. I am a 'general creditor' along with every other vendor in their accounts payable, and will be lucky to get 10 cents on the dollar in 6 months.
Get a RETAINER, people! It's a month's pay for your contractor work, BEFORE you begin, and is held by you until the final month of work is done. You still send bills to the company and client each month, or every 2 weeks, but that retainer money is in YOUR bank account in case the client company pulls a fast one on you.
Don't let what happened to me, happen to you!
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