Hopeless

Question

Have you ever felt hopeless to where you work and it’s a dead end job you have children a mortgage and the holidays is near. What do u do

Robyn Wick · Answer

I've definitely gone through phases of being dissatisfied at work. Sometimes it is about work and sometimes it has been because I've felt stuck in some other part of my life. I work on finding joy in my life - friends, family - work seems to follow. I see if there are little changes that I can make that will help.  If everything feels hopeless, it may be time to get outside help. I'm a huge proponent of therapy. Sometimes we all just need someone to talk to who can help us reframe things and figure out the why behind our feelings. Hugs to you!

Anonymous · Answer

I am planning to restart my job search after the new year.  I hit a roadblock at my current job earlier this year and realized it was time to move on.   I hired a resume writer, worked with a coach, went on a number of interviews but no offers.  My current job pays well and has amazing benefits but I have no room for professional growth and management changes have negatively impacted my role and I know I need to move on.  In the meantime it's hard to be inspired and do great work.

Anonymous · Answer

Absolutely! Especially when everyone has a holiday cheer, it can be hard in a tough situation to not feel upset that life isn't going how you want. It's good to let yourself feel how you feel, then do something that makes you feel a little bit better. Soon it will be a new year and you can start seeking support and ways to find a job that you truly enjoy and that gives you enough resources to feel a little less stuck. Wishing you a happy holiday season and 2020!

Kuznetsova Vera · Answer

My dear, aren't you - me?!! Completely on the same point here. Today was my break point, I have no other job offers and no money and mortgage and my kid. Let's just do small step every day... Do some exercises, make your hair, watch some old TV sitcom (personally I am watching right now 'Full House'), go out, start to read a book. It's only you who can make yourself better. And if you will make yourself better, you will feel more confident. And you will be able to kick asses on that job or you find a gut to find a new one. And personally I will write my first letter to Santa Clause this year. I was a good girl all my life, I deserved some miracle.

Crystal Rhineberger · Answer

Ahhhhh the black hole of displacement of enjoyment.
I’m so sorry you are in this, I promise there is light at the end.
I agree the extra support is a great goal (positive level support) 
Mayb a little bit of networking, putting some feelers out there for some other career opportunities? While preparing on bills now? 
How about when filing with taxes you might get a solid return and you can use that as padding to help the advancement?

Logan · Answer

I'm so sorry that you are in a place in your life/career that feels hopeless, I've been there and it is rough. I echo what Robyn said above: finding support is always a great first step, especially when we've lost hope and can't see possibility. Support comes in so many forms, depending on your personality and interests. If you are a introvert/one-on-on gal, a counselor or coach might be a good fit...if you are an extrovert/a group gal, a support group or special interest group might do the trick.

If you can get some distance from your situation, with the support that makes sense for you, I suspect that you will begin to see a path towards a life that is more fulfilling for you. Especially with the holidays ahead, it never hurts to surround yourself with extra support.

A hug and best wishes to you from WA State!

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