After putting into practice the 3 confidence tips I mentioned in Part 1, let’s discuss the other signs help you appear self-confident.
One example is the subtle indication of ownership. (Disclaimer: I define ownership here as: the state or quality of being an owner. I don’t mean acting as if you own people. Just wanted to clear that up!) Did you know that leaning on a wall or door frame is a surefire way to communicate self-confidence. Not leaning as in bored, but as in “Welcome! I’ve been waiting for you”
There are many ways you can subtly imply ownership, but the most common is touching something. If you put your arm across the back of the sofa or chair, it creates the impression that you feel almost as though you own that thing.
For example: I remember once interviewing at NBC in Atlanta for a Marketing/Public Relations position. I walked into the interviewers office and sat in her chair, by mistake of course! She was so shocked and taken aback, she mentioned my confidence all throughout the interview. I secretly was SUPER embarrassed but I just went with the flow. She liked that I brought ownership & confidence into the room, and it worked in my favor. I wound up getting the job! She kept mentioning that I might be CEO someday!
The same goes for touching people.
Studies show that touching someone on the shoulder can make you seem much more confident – especially if it is done in an encouraging and non-threatening way!
If you want to make a great first impression, next time you meet someone, shake their hand and touch their arm or hand with your free hand, look them in the eye and smile. You should especially greet them this way if they’re a higher pay grade then you. They will remember your confidence and boldness and become curious about you.
Remember: body language is best when read as a whole.
It’s not so much a matter of each individual aspect of your body language that will convey a sentiment, as it is the entire package.
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I am a recent graduate looking for entry-level roles in Product and Project Management. Can anyone help me to give referral or give some tips for job search in current market conditions.
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Should I Include Self-Employed Job Searcher on My Resume?
Everyone says it is better to have a job than not when searching for a new opportunity. I am unemployed since August 2023 and am working full time to find that next opportunity. If I go back to an office job, it will seriously cut my time spend searching for a new job.
Does it make sense to list my job search as a job on my resume? This is a full-time job, even more so than when I was working. There are a lot of things that go into job searching as well. What do you think?
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Got laid off after complaining to HR
i had issues with my lead like unnecessary touching me and comments like I like you I really like you while all blushing red. After my HR complaint my managers attitude towards me changed and I didn’t look out for a job because I was too lazy to start a new job. And also because I had issues going on at home front. And now at the next layoff 8-10 percent lay off my manger laid me off. I really can’t do anything just makes me mad that the lead who is so creepy didn’t get laid off. Now I am nervous about starting any job. In my tech world it’s so male dominated. I do have 10 years experience where I had no issues. Then I took a few years break and joined back to work and had this creepy lead. Looking for advice to overcome this anxiety.
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Anybody know about proving discrimination in the workplace?
I know that what I have experienced is discrimination (race and age) but need to prove it.
Here are the main points:
I was treated differently from other similarly situated employees. I was held to a higher performance standard while the others got away with everything.
I was blamed for others falling short when we are similarly situated.
I’ve heard racial epithets in the hallway as well as received an email from an executive indicating that they would not hire someone over 60.
I was excluded from leadership conferences, trainings for new employees (when I was the leader of that function).
Company promoted someone after 1 year when it took 6 years for me to get promoted to a management role. Person who got promoted was of a different race and 20 years younger. I was fully capable of doing the job as I received high performance evaluations, and was never asked nor was the position advertised.
My responsibilities have been decreased and reassigned.
I have a plethora of emails from my supervisor and another executive that constitutes harassing and demeaning behavior by them. They were all intentional to impose emotional distress on me.
I have been othered, excluded, bullied, and abused (via email) on a consistent basis.
They have fabricated information about me (in the written form) - defamation and libel.
To sum it up, I have been targeted since 8/2022 when our new COO came on board. He was in cahoots with the HR Manager to get me out of the company. Both lack integrity and I have caught both of them in major lies. The latest was when the HR Manager went to the COO to give notice when she said she found a job. The COO asked her for proof and she fabricated an offer letter from another company and received a $20k raise!
The company was never like this until we got a new HR Manager and COO who are obviously bad apples and are bringing a good company down with their unethical behavior.
I recently resigned from the company as I could not work in such a horrible environment.
I have an appointment to meet with an employment attorney.
Any insights or thoughts would be helpful.
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I’ve accepted my first manager position.
I recently took a new role as a Human Resources Manager overseeing recruitment and retention. I don’t have any direct reports but the first role I’ve held with a “manager” title. I will be responsible for engaging with over 300 employees and I am looking for any advice for someone just starting out. I have worked in recruitment for several years and oversaw various employee engagement initiatives, but I have not had to implement them from beginning to end such as bonus programs, recognition programs, stay-interviews, etc. I am just looking for any advice for a first time manager!