Fellow FGB'rs, I am seeking and am in desperate need of some advice. I will preface by saying this is partially my fault as no one held a gun to my head and demanded that I ask this woman to be in my bridal party. I did so because we are decent friends and her now husband is best friends with my fiancé and they've been best friends since childhood. He's also one of my fiancé's Best Men. So to me, it kind of made sense to ask her to be in my bridal party at the very least (BIG mistake. HUGE!) This bridesmaid of mine, let's call her.....Mildred, and I have never really bonded over anything. You know how you just sort of become friends with someone because they're always there and you're always there so the friendship just sort of.....forms despite it lacking and substance? That's the situation I have with Mildred.
For the past several interactions I've had with her, I've wanted to revoke asking her to be in my wedding party, but I don't think that's really a viable option. So I guess I'm wondering how to deal with a bridesmaid who is judge-y, rude, condescending, and overall does not make me feel excited about having her stand up there with me at my wedding. The idea fills me with dread because I know I should be surrounded by people who bring me joy. Not people who are constantly being passive aggressive and judging me for the things I do and the decisions I make for MY (and my fiancé's) wedding.
Can I take back asking her to be in my wedding party? If so, how would I even do that?
If I can't really do that, how do I deal with someone who is so frustrating?