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03/26/19 at 7:36PM UTC
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Obstructionist Coworker

Any tips for dealing with an obstructionist coworker? This person has higher seniority, but a parallel role. We're meant to work as partners to accomplish work, but they consistently block my job duties. This has been brought to the attention of upper management, but it's become clear no action will be taken.

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Alyson Garrido, Career Coach
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03/28/19 at 11:28PM UTC
I think that directness will be helpful and also being really curious, asking questions that help get her buy in. How can we work best together? What will work for you? How can we support each other? Those questions will also allow you to go back to concrete examples if things go wrong again. Good luck!
Courtney Klein
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03/27/19 at 1:33PM UTC
If you've already tried approaching this person, it sounds like you may need to do it again. And possibly again after that. And again after that? Some folks are just generally obstinate humans beings and need a touch of persistent pestering to effect results. If you're able to figure out where the miscommunication came in (that is, why the didn't change their behavior to be less problematic) that will likely help, but you may have to tease it out of them first. Have you tried approaching from a "this is bad for both of us" stance? I can't imagine your joint job is being completed as effectively as it could be were this person not actively being in the way.
Olivia Oz
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03/26/19 at 8:30PM UTC
Would you be comfortable with addressing the issue head on? If there's a way you both can communicate without getting defensive (which can be hard). Maybe saying something like, "I’m interested in hearing input as I've noticed we aren't aligned with X, Y, and Z." - Maybe having this conversation is exactly what the other person needed in order to address it. Sorry, that's frustrating!
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03/26/19 at 9:27PM UTC
I've had similar conversations, but may not have been as direct as the situation requires. I initially approached it as I would with any other coworker, but it's turned out to be more complex. Really appreciate the advice!

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