It is simply not easy working in a male-dominated industry.
Leaving one interaction where I'm called out for being too soft to walk down the hall and get called a hard ass is quite the mind-bender. I think sometimes we women make too much of these momentary anomalies.
Professional women need to learn to compartmentalize like professional men do.
Finding the right tools and developing a full compliment of work attitudes and social skills seems to be a lifelong professional endeavor.