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I have a coworker who plays this psychological warfare on me.
How do I deal with her nasty attitude, and manipulating disposition?
Anonymous
01/14/18 at 1:36AM UTC
Or perhaps she is a psychopath or has a personality disorder.
Anonymous
12/15/17 at 6:33PM UTC
I've had this same experience where they won over the boss but were extremely nasty to me. My advice: find a new job where you're treated with respect and kindness.
Anonymous
12/12/17 at 10:33PM UTC
I had the same type of coworker, who I now recognize as a sociopath, as she was constantly lying to the boss about me, playing manipulative games to benefit her and antagonize me, and she had no remorse or empathy for her behaviors towards me whatsoever--even after I tried to talk to her (her response: "I don't care"). I tried to do my job well, despite her interference. But eventually she won over the boss with her charm and deceit. And as a result, after being assaulted at work by her, I was fired. My advice: steer clear, hope your boss is aware and clear-thinking, and if not start looking for a new job.
Anonymous
11/29/17 at 8:01PM UTC
In my experience, most people don't have a bad attitude like that without there being an underlying causer. Could it be that she feels threatened by you? Or maybe there's something going on in her personal life or learned behavior from her upbringing, and in reality this has nothing to do with you? This kind of situation can feel highly personal, but if you force yourself look at it/her empathetically and with objectivity, that can help shift your perspective to where you no longer take it personally. Just focus on doing your job well. And if her behavior is actually interfering with your ability to do your job, try having a private conversation with her (in person, NOT via email etc.): "I'm sure you don't mean it this way, but when you do X, it makes me feel Y." If that doesn't work and things are still going badly, you may need to consult your manager (if they're trustworthy) or someone in HR.
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