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nikki1022
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01/03/19 at 3:29PM UTC
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I am thinking of moving to a new city, but my biggest fear is not being able to make new friends.

I'm old enough that pretty much everyone I know has their set friends who they've had since high school, college, or post-college. But I can't think of anyone I know who's my age who's actively looking to make new friends. So I'm terrified that if I move, it will be very difficult for me to forge new relationships in this new city (where I won't know anyone).... Has anyone does this successfully? As an introvert? If so, advice would be much appreciated!!!

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LEANNE TOBIAS
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01/12/19 at 10:34PM UTC
I’ve made good friends in my community by becoming involved in activities that I genuinely enjoy. (In my case, it’s supporting local political causes.) It’s easier to bond with others when you have shared interrsts.
Evelyn Clark, SHRM-SCP
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01/05/19 at 8:09PM UTC
We are getting ready to move to a new state after living in the same town for 18 years. We are anxious, excited and nervous but we think that our strategy of becoming active in groups which share our interests should be okay. We love yoga, folk and alternative music, cooking and the like so we will pursue those interests. We will also join a church for the community that it provides. I think you will be fine. People of all ages and at all stages want to make friends. And it is totally normal to be nervous.
Anonymous
01/06/19 at 1:59PM UTC
EXACTLY!!
Marina Weber
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01/03/19 at 4:59PM UTC
I have move abroad to various countries and back home with the same fears as you have. I know it is a difficult transition and the fears sometimes can impede our ability to be open to new relationships. Like you, also older and set in my ways in terms of cultural norms, friendships, etc. I found friendships in unlikely places. For example, I wanted to learn more detailed knitting stitches (I originally learned from YouTube), so I joined a group of knitters in the city that I moved to. From there, my friendships and introduction to new people just seemed to evolve naturally. I am not saying it is not going to take effort from your behalf. It will, but don't let the fear impede you. You might discover a new you! Best of luck with baby steps. Who knows, you eventually might get there!
nikki1022
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coffee+chocolate addict
01/03/19 at 5:03PM UTC
thank you for the support!!
Anonymous
01/03/19 at 4PM UTC
Moving to a new city is tough, especially as an introvert! If you're open to it, I recommend finding a roommate who is similar to you in their stage of life and/or interests. My roommate introduced me to neighbors, her friends, and a few of her favorite hobbies and I'm so grateful to her. Meetup is also a great place to meet people with similar interests who are usually also looking to make new friends!
nikki1022
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coffee+chocolate addict
01/03/19 at 4:07PM UTC
Thanks for the tips! I think I would prefer to live alone, but I will definitely try Meetup — I've heard great things!!

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