I'm the youngest female manager in my company and the male leaders above me feel the need to never call me by name, but by terms of endearment like Sweetie, Darling, Sweetheart, and Honey. I find this infuriating and demeaning to what I have accomplished in my career.
When I've addressed it, they explain it's a term of endearment, that it shows that they like me, that they enjoy working with me, then they explain that they can't help it because it's just the way they were raised as Southern Gentlemen - to speak to women respectfully and politely, to treat them with kindness, the same way they open doors for women and pick up the check.
I actually said, "The best way to treat me with respect and politely is to call me by my first name. I'm not your wife or your daughter, I'm a leader and manager at this company. I understand you are Southern and may be used to addressing women in a certain manner, but I want to be called by my name."
They don't seem to understand and they keep doing it, and I'm not buying it. Did they ever call their teachers in school "Sweetie", or their best friend's mom "Honey"? It feels like they are just trying to make me feel less than.
Looking for advice here...I'm about to snap and start calling all of these men Sweetie on a daily basis to see how they like it.
I'm not really serious, but I'm not really kidding...