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Amber-li
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09/23/20 at 4:29PM UTC
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How to cope with a Job you no longer want to invest your time into but can’t figure out how to get another?

Hi, to get straight to the point, my whole life I have been forced to take roles that I really was not informed about completely nor were they really MY choice, but rather influence by external factors or another person... I have always had to scrape by with whatever job I could land that was seemingly most “convenient” or “entry level.” I have worked numerous industries by now all for the sake of a paycheck and not career-based or even a real fit for my personality. And because of factors including but not limited to extreme dissatisfaction, relocating to another area, and I have been laid off a few times but not for misconduct or anything just couldn’t provide me the hours. I have been “job hopping” for years due to the fact that no job I have taken I could withstand longer then months to a couple years because they were a mix of unethical, low pay, workplace favoritism etc etc , this included retail, healthcare, and fitness related industries. I HATE my work history and writing a resume is daunting because I didn’t have the privilege or opportunities others had available all through my 20s and I was in a horrific “relationship” that corrupted any career choices I would have otherwise been able to make. I am early into my 30s now and feeling time like a pressure cooker upon me making me super anxious to find a career that I want to keep and not worry about job hopping. I am currently in retail with insufficient pay to support myself after I graduated with my bachelors. I share my apartment to avoid moving in with my parents, and otherwise just really getting demotivated to keep living my life, seeing everyone else own businesses and strike it rich and successful. I was taught by parents way of life that it will never be me. However, I have siblings that are doing very well. I have a complex about my own life because I have that horrible relationship in my past that has negated me and corrupted my work history on top of it, so I feel like I am actually starting from scratch. I would really appreciate any advice. I am looking to go for my masters but still want to quit my current job to earn more for living expenses. I love to write, and possess true professional integrity but companies don’t seem to care if you don’t fit their qualifications. I feel stuck in limbo and just unsure where to look for better pay, what you would do in MY shoes? Thanks for reading.

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Trina Schneider
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10/28/20 at 7:10PM UTC
Over the years, I've become an event planner (certified), Project Management, and I'm currently working on my Six Sigma Green Belt. Two years ago, I did the Six Sigma Yellow belt. There are MOC in marketing, Hootsuite, digital sales, marketing. You name it and there is a certification course out there. Most have a minimal cost, but I believe that we should be saving 10% to invest in our careers. Even if that 10% goes to a trip/retreat to think and rejuvenate.
Amber-li
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10/28/20 at 4:06PM UTC
Thank you for your reply. Completely agree about doing a "decade dump"... I tend to remember alot of negative that served as lessons to me, however good analogy with the rear view mirror concept. I have journal written and made lists of things that resonate with me and my abilities. And would love to hear more about these courses that you mentioned.
Trina Schneider
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09/24/20 at 6:33PM UTC
It's time for you to do the decade data dump. In every career, you have to stop and take stock in what you like and what you don't like. Your post has a lot of "dislikes", and not a lot of what your super power, or likes are. Put a side by side list together, and decide what you sparks your soul and makes you feel amazing. If you need to obtain new certifications to make yourself marketable, go out and get those. There are a number of free MOC courses out there, to make yourself marketable. You will not be able to drive your career, by looking at the road through the rearview mirror.
Chanda Pulliam
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09/23/20 at 5:50PM UTC
What is your degree in? It's pretty common to have to start at the bottom in any career you choose (or get tossed into), but having a resume that shows stability does help a bit. Rule of thumbs: Don't quit one job unless the one you are moving to contributes to the 'career story' of your resume and shows an increase in responsibility or career potential. Also, you need a mentor: Someone in the industry you choose to pursue who can show you how to expand your opportunities and income potential. I feel like I can give you more specifics once I know what your degree is in.
Amber-li
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10/28/20 at 4:03PM UTC
I know this is super late. I have been inactive here lately but want to return back here to answer your reply. Understood. And my degree title is health promotions. However I consider it irrelevant as I lost interest in the field and there are no opportunities around me that seem to "get it." I understand about increasing responsibility. That is what I seek because I happen to be extremely diligent, studious, and somewhat of a "workaholic" especially in a field i sm genuinely interested in maintaining. I am fairly introverted and don't use much social media or this thing called "networking" either...I don't know how to go about locating my mentor. However I definitely have role models. Thanks for your time giving this reply.

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