How do you identify when work stress is “too much”?
February 7,2023 at 2:03AM UTC (Edited)
Ive been at my company for 7 years and I am in a Leadership Role. I have always made work a priority and I can say I am considered to be “one of the high performing ones”. I feel like I have a great seat at the table and have worked really hard to get here. I also have enjoyed ownership and they have provided me with great mentorship. I’m mentioning all of this prior because I feel conflicted. I have felt so low and so stressed for about 6 months. The stress stems from the demanding clientele, company growth, heavy workload, fast pace environment, and it never seems to lessen. It feels like each year it gets worse. I work 55+ hrs, last week over 60. I’m contemplating if this is how I want to live my life and if this is the career that I want.
How can you tell if this is “temporary” stress and unhappiness or if this is the company’s culture due to growth and my expectation as a leader long term?
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