Up your career game with a.... wait for it....therapist!
Stay with me here my esteemed queens! Many may question the connection between furthering their career to consistent work and check-ins with a therapist, but I am here to shout from the roof tops it's worth every penny.
In my mid twenties I was a hot emotional mess (really who wasn't at some point in that time period?). I sought therapy, and was promptly diagnosed with chronic depression. Hence began my journey of including therapy as a normal part of my lifestyle. It has become less about managing with medications, and more about a neutral person helping me be the best person I can be .
Now 45, I count my therapist as a great resource and tool, whether I'm doing great, struggling with a personal issue, or chewing on wasps about a work situation.
I have a standing monthly appointment with my go to "feelings-guru", and working through anything going on. How does this translate over into work?
It has massively upped my emotional intelligence game.
I have a fierce poker face now, and stopped taking anything and everything personally years ago.
I can now pick up on negative trigger communication and know how to appropriately manage my response.
It has helped me be one of the best at managing up my ELT and C-suite, quickly interpret non-verbal communication to navigate towards successful work collaboration, and stop being a micro-managing control freak (we're quite unpleasant to work with I've heard).
Most companies offer good benefits, and behavioral health/mental health is part of the standard package. Many smart companies also offer employee assistance programs (EAP), and they cover anywhere from 4-8 therapy sessions for free. FOR FREE.
Whether you're doing great emotionally, or this WFH has you about to lose your mind, check into your benefits, and just try one session!
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I filed a complaint with HR.
I was immediately removed from the schedule , and HR told mgmt to remove me for another month until concerns with boss get resolved and the situation blows over. Mgmt is calling it "HR Compliance." Ive stayed in contact about return to work. Found out Mgmt would like to transfer me. I asked about working at original location and was told bc HR Compliance there are very few shifts available. I asked when will it (complaine) will be over and have been ghosted.
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Hi all, I have a dilemma and can use some sound advice.
I got to interview for a great opportunity (I was laid off in Feb, so have been in the hunt for a while) I think I will get this role bc of my experience and bc the recruiter told me the person hiring saw my resume and called him on Memorial Day to get me in the phone.
The job is what I used to do so I'm sure I will excel. The problem is, it's hybrid night and weekends.
I can go into the office no issues on Fri and Sat night but, because I have a 3 year old, I can't do the other nights bc my husband also works nights and we would have different days of going in.
While he would be able to help with our kid, I'm afraid they may give me a hard time and I haven't yet had the 2nd interview to be able to disclose it.
My question, what is the best way to bring this up? I really want and need this job so I don't want to pass it up. Just extremely nervous about it all.
Thanks in advance!
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I'm looking to learn more about change mangagement, specifically helping to 'lead' or facilitate in this situation.
Any suggestions on where to start other than a random google search? Thanks.
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My Supervisor is too friendly with my colleauges (her reports).
I know that I'm not out of line, as this is so unprofessional. I have a supervisor (she is the manager of the department) who manages 3 of us. I'm relativly new and the other two (both female) are extremely close and "BFF-like" to our supervisor (also female). The three of them share inside jokes all day, and my supervisor constantly takes walks/goes to lunch/coffee with the other two, leaving me alone to deal with our walk-in clients. I've had several talks with my supervisor about this, as well as our manager. He's tried to talk to her (she doesn't "get it," he says) but still doesn't think anything of her actions with my colleagues (he even asked HR if there was a policy for such). It's outright favortism, and it's created so much angst that I have been getting physically sick, and of course, feel emotionally bent. I've never experienced this in my career, and I know that it's morally and professionally wrong. I've done all that I can think of (to include documenting everything). I am beyond miserable and am ready to quit at any moment. It's very, very obvious that my supervisor doesn't want me (she even told me that I was not a part of the team...ouch!) and is more upset with me now that I've spoken out. This feels like high school!
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Changing careers is really hard the older you get.
I work for the federal government and lately I have had a strong desire to change my job series. But I am at a level in the GS series, where it is difficult to switch, and I cannot afford to take a pay cut to learn a new role. If I don't make a change in the next 3 to five years, I may as well just retire in place. Networking is even harder when you move up the ladder in the GS series, everyone is on guard. I have been thinking of taking a lateral position at a different agency so that maybe I can meet a new group of people. As I write this, a lateral move sounds like a great idea. Just wondering if someone else has experienced this funk and how they got out of it. Thanks in advance for sharing.
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Networking is hard and overrated
So many talk about networking as this silver bullet that if you do it, you are going to find this wonderful hidden job. Well, I found out that this is really not the case. When you are looking for a job, you really should be doing everything- network, but also look for job postings, utilize recruiters as well. When you really need that job, people you know don't immediately rush to help you unless you are very lucky and they know of a position that fits your skills perfectly. At least this was my experience so far, I really did not find a good job networking.
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