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I'm sorry you're experiencing this.
Here are some suggestions.
-Maintain your peace (outside of work will fuel inside of work), hobbies, friends, family, pets, exploring, join a club.
-Maintain your professionalism, don't allow this jerk to have you shrink at work. There are lots of videos and books about how to make friends at work (or even how to seem friendly and give a good impression).
-Rise above office politics. Sounds like this colleague has influence but not power. Your manager has power but not influence and they're behaving like in high school.
-Gather your supports in your personal life, including family, friends, a therapist, a career coach (and if cost is an issue, start with the online videos and books for great tips).
-If there's a way to share things about yourself (e.g. if you have virtual/live team meetings and there is chit chat, mention a book you're reading or a show you're watching. It may be crickets at first or it may not. Either way, you're planting seeds for folks to come to you.
-Work friends are not your friends, no matter how friendly. Some may cross over into friend territory (come to your house, celebrate your milestones, met your family, etc.- that's different). And for the ones who show you they aren't your friends by the type of behavior you described, you need to counter them in whatever manner fits your personality and the environment (jokingly, witty, directly saying "that's incorrect and I don't appreciate it, talk to me when you have something accurate and professional to say).
Stand in the fact that sometimes work won't be friendly. It may not be cruel either. Somewhere in between. The desire for work friends is one thing. The desire to not be alone at work is another. If you want, start inviting folks to things- keep invitations open (a walk, a coffee run, are you going to the staff meeting now- can I walk with you?). Find the friendly office cheerleader or office parent (you know, the one that gets everyone to do things with a smile)- ask them if you can join them when they go out to lunch. They usually seek folks out and typically welcome folks . People can be creatures of habit and forget to ask. You'll also learn who you want to be friends with. If you have HR, ask them what clubs or groups exist at work. Either HR or the Employee Advisory Group or Wellness Group, ask them about work hobbies, clubs, or employee engagement activities. Many companies are clamoring to create community for retention. These groups / games/ surveys could be a way for you to find things in common. (I had someone seek me out at a job once because I mentioned a book I read and he liked the author).
FWIW, I was told I was an extravert my whole life. Well, as research enhanced and information became more available, I learned I'm actually an ambivert. Whatever your categorization, play to your strengths and find folks who support you. At home and at work.
As for this situation and this person and your lack of trust, that's related but different. There are techniques to learn to secure your work (namely, to document everything). If you've tried all you can and aren't happy, changing jobs is always an option.
Good luck.
JJ
Can you find a hobby or volunteer to make friends? For most, work friends are just for work and if you leave, you are leaving your friends too.