Is it possible to find true love again after being married for 9 years? That’s what my heart wonders in these moments while I am going through my job search journey. You see, I tell everyone around me that American was like a husband, and in some ways, it totally feels like I was married to my company for 9 years.
Let me give you some context into my metaphor. I started with American right after College. I was 21 and had been in the country for 5 years at the time, didn’t know many people in my circle who like me had landed a job at a multinational Fortune 500, the biggest airline in the world. I didn’t even know how I ended up applying, getting an interview and landing the entry level job, but I did and was more than grateful to get the experience and the benefits that come with a full-time job at a big company, free flying even in business, really inexpensive healthcare, a very good 401K matching contribution. These were all things I had never heard of before, so I said yes without thinking it or negotiating my salary which wasn’t that good, but it still was better than my former part time job at an Insurance Agency. I was in cloud nine just like a high school girl experiencing her first love. I fell in love with my job as it consumed most of my hours awake, and so my entire life began to revolve around American. So much so, that when the promotions were not available in my city, I decided it was time to choose between American and my family, and you guessed it, it was time to move out of state to follow my love and go to headquarters where all the action was happening. As I said goodbye to my family, friends and favorite city, i was putting my career and my love for American first. It was that love that fueled me to learn more and more and go places, it was that love that made me pursue my next opportunity to change my high heels for flats and accept a promotion to manage a team in ramp operations at DFW airport to better understand what it takes to run an airline, something I had no idea how to conquer. But it was there, where after almost 9 years of relationship, my love for American started to feel a little different. You see I couldn’t picture myself growing old at American, I wanted to experience more. I knew there was more out there or at least that I wasn’t happy anymore in this relationship. We had gone separated directions, we were no longer wanting the same, and we were definitely no the same kids anymore. American was undergoing an identity crisis and finding its why, and my priority were starting to shift as I was leaving my 20s behind. I wanted to start a family and get paid a better salary and more personal time off to provide for my family, now nonrev traveling and healthcare benefits were not cutting anymore. And so I did the mature thing to do and decided to quit the relationship. But I wanted to quit without cheating on American with someone else, I didn’t want to go looking for something else without taking the time to heal and process how to do better in my next relationship. See most people don’t quit their jobs until they have another offer lined up, well im not most people. I also didn’t have the time to look for another job, I was very committed to American until my last day even if our love was not the same as before.
It was there that my own discovery journey started. I was left like many divorced women with many experiences to put on a resume but a weird feeling of no knowing what to do or where to go with it. Would I ever find love again in what I do? Would I even be as passionate for the next company? As I try to go through my own definition of what I want to do next, I want to feel the same flames I once felt. I want to feel like whatever my next job is, I will be changing the world, and kicking butt in my high heels, but I also want the work-life balance and other perks that I need to start a family. Is this all even possible? Is it a fairytale? Would this time be a forever love?
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Toxic Work Environments:
I see so many conversations on here about toxic work environments. People discussing what is vs isn't toxic and the like. I would love to have a post dedicated to that topic. What is YOUR definition of a toxic workplace? What are some of the toxic behaviors you have dealt with that encouraged/forced you to leave OR how you handled it to make the situation better?
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I have a moral quandary I'd love some insight on. I spent all fall legally breaking my company into entities. Recently, my small company divested of one of those entities, and that entity wants me to come work for them. There is nothing against it in the inter-company agreement. I feel a great loyalty to my boss, but don't have much confidence in Senior Leadership and this new offer is infinitely more fun (although along the same lines) as my current job. So, we'd haveto handle the transition carefully so as not to damage relationships. What would you do? Are there any other factors I'm omitting to consider? Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts and expertise.
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I've been invited for a second interview and am so excited!
I love the company and what they do, and I have all the skills and experience they are asking for. How can I avoid my enthusiasm being perceived as too confident, arrogant, or pushy?
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Leveraging Clifton Strengths: Your Guide to Finding the Right Job
In today's competitive job market, finding the right job can be a daunting task. With countless opportunities and diverse career paths available, job seekers often find themselves overwhelmed by choices and uncertainties.
However, amidst this complexity, Clifton Strengths can serve as a powerful tool to guide individuals towards their ideal career paths and opportunities.
Understanding Your Strengths
The first step in leveraging Clifton Strengths in your job search is understanding your own strengths profile. Through the Clifton Strengths assessment, individuals gain insights into their top strengths across four domains: Executing, Influencing, Relationship Building, and Strategic Thinking. This self-awareness forms the foundation for identifying opportunities that align with your unique talents and abilities.
By recognizing your strengths, you can articulate your value proposition to potential employers with clarity and confidence.
Identifying Ideal Roles and Environments
Once you have a clear understanding of your strengths, the next step is to identify roles and environments that complement your strengths profile. By leveraging your strengths as selection criteria, you can assess potential job opportunities based on their alignment with your core strengths and values.
Moreover, consider the organizational culture and values that resonate with your strengths. Look for companies and teams that appreciate and leverage diverse strengths, fostering an environment where you can thrive and contribute meaningfully.
Crafting Compelling Application Materials
Incorporating your Clifton Strengths into your application materials can significantly enhance your candidacy and set you apart from other applicants. Whether you're crafting your resume, cover letter, or preparing for interviews, strategically highlighting your strengths reinforces your suitability for the role and demonstrates your potential value to the organization.
During interviews, be prepared to discuss your strengths in greater detail and provide concrete examples that showcase your abilities in action. Articulate how your strengths align with the requirements of the role and how they can positively impact the organization's objectives and culture.
Continuous Growth and Development
The journey of leveraging Clifton Strengths in your job search doesn't end once you've secured a new role. It's essential to continue nurturing and developing your strengths over time, seeking opportunities for growth and advancement within your chosen field.
As you embark on your job search endeavors, embrace your strengths as your guiding light, empowering you to pursue opportunities that resonate with your unique talents and aspirations. Remember, your strengths are not just attributes; they are your competitive advantage in the pursuit of professional excellence and fulfillment.
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Was I Set Up For Failure?
I have been in my current position for a year and a half. The first year was a bit rocky, trying to learn my way in my position (ie the systems, etc). This position involves a lot of manual data entry (it’s an accounting role). The slightest mistake could affect a lot. I was not aware of this before taking the position. I’ve made a lot of mistakes so after 5 months in the role, I was pulled to the side by both my sup and director asking if everything was “okay” with me. Everything was fine. I just told them that I needed to pay closer attention to my work. Which I did. The next 5 months I was laser focused on my tasks no mistakes. Then someone who handled the accounting coordinator role of our department left. I was asked to TEMPORARILY fill in. Mind you, this is a FULL TIME role. They said they would distribute the work I am currently doing, to my colleagues. Me always being the “prove myself” person said no. I’ll keep them. The first couple months in the role went smoothly until the end of last year. It was my first time closing out the year in this coordinator role. I was also still handling my work that I was hired to do. So yes, the mistakes started again. I started receiving emails and chats about my work from my superiors. I knew a PIP was coming. Fast forward to last week, the PIP happened. I had already resigned, I accepted a nee position. I started my search top of this year. But I can’t help to feel like this whole thing was a set up. I didn’t really feel supported in this role when I picked up the extra work. Was this a form of gaslighting? Or a form of “quiet firing”?
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I accepted a position, signed the offer letter, back in January that I found through a recruiting firm, however, I have yet to start due to some internal delays and dont want to burn bridges with the recruiter, as they are large, and may need them down the road.
In all fairness, I did know that I was going to start at least March 1, but here we are and I haven’t started and now I’m being told sometime in March .In the meantime, a former colleague reached out, said he’s got a position open for me (that I would much rather have) and they are ready for me to start now. What do I do? Thank you for all of your advice everyone.