My coworker is a biracial gay man who is very open about his identity. We have worked together for about 3 years and currently are in the office together 3 days a week (we both work from home 1 day and only overlap T/W/Th) He has always had a little bit of a brisk attitude with me, I started a year before he did and we do the same job, sometimes on projects together and sometimes on different teams (we are both engineers). He was especially short with me today when we were both trying to use the plotter and his drawings seemed to be held up by mine. As we both stood waiting for them to print, he was clearly agitated and I made a comment that they really need another plotter because this one is old and soooo slow. He sort of huffed and commented something under his breath, I just stood there not really understanding if he was agreeing with me or what and he turned to me and said "I don't expect you to understand, you send your kids to a school built on hate run by pedophiles". I was stunned. I was once stopped in a grocery store while my daughter was with me in her uniform when an older woman asked me if I was OK sending my child to a school run by molesters.
We don't really have an HR department, we have a woman who is the office manager who deals with HR type things but she isn't HR. I was so stunned I didn't know what to say to him so I just went into the bathroom and tried to catch my breath.
I never talk about my religion at work, I do volunteer in the church and I would say a fair number of my mom friends are also the parents of kids at this school, I am on the parent board that fundraises for the school so it is a big part of my life but I don't mention things about it really other than if someone asked me what I did over the weekend I might offer that I ran a fundraiser or it was my daughter's first communion and we had a party.
I don't really know what to do. My husband is irate, he wants me to talk to the owners but I know they won't do anything about this because they avoid HR stuff all the time. My husband said if I was Jewish or Muslim this would be enough to get the guy fired. My coworker that I share a desk with could tell something was wrong and asked me and I told her, she told me he has said other things before about how I am part of a cult of pedophiles and how "people like her" should be exposed. He apparently has also made comments about the school photos I have on the wall of my desk where my kids are in uniform.
I understand my church is not as open and welcoming as it could be to LGBTQ people but that doesn't mean we are full of hate. I don't know what to do, this coworker intimidates me, he is always talking about how people discriminate against him.
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I saw how my colleagues were freaking out and then I heard about this concept. So I did what I thought was quietly quitting - I just did the minimum required of me. Then we got our monthly numbers and I was ahead of plan!
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Once someone signs an offer letter, is it generally okay to give notice to your present employer?
(Basically, it's a contract, yes?)
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Is it discrimination to let the oldest employee work all nights and weekends when a younger inexperienced person is taken into a position?
We did have fair scheduling until this person came into the group, she says she can not get a baby sitter. So another employee and myself have all the nights, except one. He gets a couple of days during the week, I sometimes get one on the weekend?
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I was looking through job postings that are in my field just to see what's out there and I'm finding an increasing number of employers requiring a master's degree and at least 5 years of experience with salaries in the 40k range...you have got to be kidding me.
This isn't so much about me but I find that offensive. A master's degree to be paid less than the national average in the US...got it. I'm also shocked because when I started in this field about 2 years ago in an entry-level position with a bachelor's degree that was the salary range with the requirements being a bachelor's degree in a related field and no experience with the specific job required but other general skills related to it. I feel I got extremely lucky but I'm also wondering if you can move up salary-wise in this field with experience alone.
The way the goalposts are constantly being moved is outrageous.
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Presentation used by colleague without consent
My workplace is a small architectural firm with lesser than 30 staff.
Last year August, we had organised an internal sharing session on lessons learned from our projects. It was a very personal sharing for me as I shared about my first project (project A) since joining the firm and I had shared about lessons that were personal and impactful to me. My manager even commented on my presentation slides and rehearsed with me prior the session.
Today we organised another sharing session and we had been requested to share about reviews on our projects.
My colleague who worked with me on project A was assigned to present about her review on it. We had worked closely in other projects as well but it had not been a good experience over the past 3 years due to unfair workload distribution. After reflecting my thoughts to my manager, they will be reassigned to other projects next month onwards.
When we were assigned the presentation yesterday they asked for my presentation slides prepared for the last presentation in August (our presentation materials are always accessible in office server for reference) and I had provided to them. Somehow knowing thier intention, I had provided my slides to see what they would do. Obviously they failed to prove me wrong and used my slides for presentation today without changing anything. They did not even bother to change the date nor asked if they could use it.
Should I be flagging this to my manager? Although i had presented last year, I don't think my manager remembers as they need to oversee many things.
Appreciate your kind advice.
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I know worker's compensation laws vary from state to state, but I have a general question for anyone involved in the HR portion of WC.
We currently have a few different employees out on WC. The office loudmouth is convinced the one claim is fake, and has made comments to this effect both in the office in full earshot of employees who are not this employee's supervisor or in any supervisor capacity whatsoever. She has also made these same statements in a private message to the employee's direct supervisor and me.
However, I sent a private message to her and another employee's direct supervisor outlining this employee's work restrictions and was immediately admonished by the office loudmouth for doing so using the private message. I have all of this very well documented. If any HR peoples can give me some direction on how you would handle this, I would appreciate it.