I just need to vent. I am at my wits end. My boss whom I don't think likes me very well and another coworker that is a kiss up are ALWAYS whispering. It is so rude and intimidating to me. This other coworker I do not trust at all. She will text me at night to ask what is wrong if I seem off that day. I truly think she reports everything back to the boss. We are all in our 50s and this is so childish. I can't vent to anyone at work because of trust and I don't know where their loyalties lie. How do I handle this? It really takes me back to middle school. I am trying to find something else because of the toxicity here but no luck so far. I think this is so unprofessional on my boss's part.
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I am having such a difficult time obtaining remote work.
I never thought it would be this difficult. I thought it may have been my resume so I had a few done professionally and still rejection email after rejection email. This is so discouraging. Wishing success to us all during these difficult times!
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Am I barking up the wrong ladder?
And, if I am not, how do I constructively talk to my boss?
I work a union position as web content lead for a state agency. The position is newer and still has some fleshing out to do when it comes to the full scope, but my position description is pretty clear that I handle the management of our public facing sites and serve as advisor and journey mapper as we modernize those we have.
My boss is from the private sector. This their first time managing and we are a team of four. There is a lot to unpack here but I will try to keep this lean.
One their former bosses (who is a friend of mine and sometimes tries to help me navigate the situation) described my boss as "Ready, Fire, Aim!" which is accurate. They have a history of rushing into decisions (often that the team needs to fix), glazing over during any detailed information anyone gives and rushing us along, and generally charging ahead and then being demonstrably upset when they are stalled by the processes necessary when serving the public. They have (by their own and their bosses' admission) poor delegation skills and tend to micromanage and take other peoples work without telling them when stressed, which is often. They routinely have issues with one or more teammates who are a bit more set in their ways. This is the tip of the iceberg.
They are not a bad person, and are good at some things. They are a terrific salesperson, excellent speaker, protective of their crew and flexible about personal matters. It's nice that they have a lot of vision and ambition, too. We need that! It's just that I and the team wish we had a bit more insight into where they were going before they go there.
Recently we started wrapping up a major website revision project which I am kind of leading (I'm a collaborative sort and this is a very collaborative effort). They announced to me in an off hand manner during a 1x1 that they were moving ahead with several other major projects in my focus are and I was like, oh, this is the first I have heard of that. They seemed very nonchalant about this fact and kept right on talking, like oh, yah, I'm doing that and that and that. I let them know about some preliminary hurtles they would need to address and they were like, ok, thanks.
I have to admit I am a bit insulted. I'm trying to keep it in perspective and think this is obviously in keeping with how they are on a regular basis. But it does affect my work. On the one hand, if they charge ahead and I am blindsided, I won't be able to contribute. On the other if they just take the work away I don't get the growth and experience and chances are very likely I will end up fixing the mistakes.
Would I be stepping out of my boundaries to say hey, this is part of the scope of my job and I would like to understand your vision and timeline and be a part of this? And, if it comes to it, to explain that these things are in my job description? We are a union shop and it's generally not considered cool to duplicate duties. I'm just lost as to how to set my boundaries with this person without starting a war, or if I even should.
Thanks for listening. :)
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Sometimes the best-fit career path isn't obvious at first.
Take the time to reflect on your journey and don't be afraid to pivot when needed.
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I have to just say to all employers.
Employers that tout "disability inclusion" should not just limit to physical disability. All disabilities are not visible. As someone with multiple sclerosis, please ensure that your "disability inclusion" actually includes those with mental disability, emotional disability and intellectual disability. "Disabled" does not equate to "incapable" or "unable". We are just looking for the chance to join the work force and continue our lives...Give us a shot...we don't bite and we won't disappoint.
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Work pet peeves?
Mine is improper email threading, when a sender replies and subsequently replies to the original email, leaving me to 'collect' through multiple emails e.g. to compile answers to a list of items/questions. Might not seem like big deal, but when you have hundreds of emails to coworkers and clients, it makes a difference. Is there an etiquette or term for this?
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Is it me or are workplaces not giving a s**t about Covid anymore?
I found out a coworker who sits near me had Covid, no email was sent warning people to get tested. Then I just tested positive. Thankfully my symptoms are mild, but I am dealing with fatigue. I just feel like companies don’t care anymore. They just want butts in seats. To me this solidifies the argument to work from home.