My job started off amazing, but in the past 6 months has gotten horrendous.
February 25,2023 at 6:32PM UTC
My supervisor is about my age, and singles me out for her bullying behavior. Her best friend was also a supervisor and they tag team bullied myself and a few other new employees at the office until the other employees quit, and the other supervisor was demoted and eventually fired after myself and others talked to upper management about the behavior. Now, i feel like my supervisor has escalated her behavior towards me since her friend got fired. She has waited for me daily since November at my desk to arrive in the morning, and historically has promptly left when I do arrive. I since learned she’s been tracking my exact time every morning, and has reported me to HR. She had a one in one meeting with me about my tardiness to work, and threatened my employment status if I continue. We’re talking logging times like 8:03, 8:06, etc etc etc, when coworkers of mine are walking in the exact same time, because our building is not accessible to us really prior to 8:00. The doors open around 8:00 sharp, so it’s nearly impossible to be in exactly at 8. My supervisor is notorious for not even being there logged in ready to go prior to 8:00 AM. Her expectation of me is to arrive to work early to be logged in and working by 8:00 AM, but will not allow me to be paid for arriving early and waiting until the doors open. No other employee has dealt with these expectations or behaviors. Now, since our one on one meeting about time, she is making me check in with her in person every morning before I go to my desk. She stated if she is not in her office, I must walk around the building until i find a manager to “show them” i was here at 8. To note: I’ve never missed a day of work, unless previously approved time off. I don’t go missing, I’m at my desk accounted for all 8 hours of my desk shift. My supervisor also gives me horrible attacking feedback in our one on one meetings. She will tell me I lack self-confidence and that in constantly regressing in my work (though my numbers clearly show otherwise and I’m praised by other individuals in high management). She spreads rumors about me, and it’s negatively affected my mental health to where I take sick days and annual time now solely to avoid going into the office to deal with her. I’ve spoken to upper management about this and have provided my evidence (she attacks me in writing too), but they won’t do anything, and in turn, are trying to push me to get on ADA and FMLA instead for the time off. They acknowledge that she’s a problem, and has been a problem, but state they don’t have anyone to fill the position so they’re trying to train her to be better and work with what they have. Ive tried to reach out to HR but the rep I talk to cut me off and stated I need to continue to talk to upper management like I have been. She wouldn’t hear what i had to say. I’ve recently submitted in writing a complaint to HR about the hostile work environment, but have yet to hear back. Right now, I feel my options are to contact an attorney about this, or quit. It’s hard, because this job pays well and does have decent benefits, but I can’t see the toxic behavior going away anytime soon. I guess more than anything, I needed to rant. There’s so much more that she’s done, and I have tons of examples and evidence, I’m moreso just tired and am ready to give up. I don’t feel I have a chance at this company.
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