I wanted to update you all. I never heard back from one of the companies, but I did get an offer from the second and I accepted yesterday!! I’m thrilled and so relieved. Thank you all for being there!

Thank you all for your help. I just heard from Company 1 and I didn't get the job. Company 2 was supposed to get back to me early this week and Company 3 was supposed to update me yesterday afternoon. Recruiting is my business and the only time I don't get back to a client is if I'm dead. I ALWAYS get back to people. So I do not feel good at all. I appreciate your support.

As someone who is currently hiring, I do like the follow up emails from candidates, even though I often have made my decision prior to the thank you/follow up email. I also was very recently in a position where I was hiring, wanted to hire all 3 candidates for the 1 position, but one of them had a family emergency so their interview was pushed back. One candidate reached out to check in on the process, and even though I didn't hire them, I really like that the reached out because I could explain why it was taking longer than I originally said, and it made it easier to say later "not this time, but I really want to keep in touch for future opportunities." and to actually mean it vs. a platitude because that communication and trust had already been established.

Good luck for your future...

Hi Jessica, Is there one job that you haven't heard from that is your first choice? Ask yourself if you had all 3 on the table and the offers were equal, which would you take? If the 1st choice is the one you have, awesome- take it! If not, you can tell the other company that they are your first choice, but you have an offer that you need to respond to by whatever date it is. Give them the opportunity, but also ask yourself which job meets your needs/wants the best. Good luck!

Jessica, Congratulations on the offer coming your way! Here's how I would coach you: once you have that offer in hand, reach out to the other companies you are still interested in and in the loop with to let them know. Don't give them specifics as to the company, compensation, etc., but give them enough information to know you're being truthful. I suggest something like this: "Mary, I wanted to let you know I've received an offer from another company in the IT space. Before I accept that offer, I wanted to check on the status of my candidacy with COMPANY, as I am still very interested in the position. I will accept or reject their offer on DATE. I look forward to hearing from you!" This is their opportunity to either turn you loose or kick into high gear to get an offer to you.

As Kate Davis said, definitely send a Thank You if you haven't already done so. Also, should you be contacted, don't be afraid to ask what their timeline is for making a decision. It's expected that a candidate will ask for time to think about it when made an offer, so if you here from the company you're least interested in first, you can always buy a little time by telling them you'd like to take a day or two to think about it. But definitely get back to them when you say you're going to.

Anxiety happens when you want to control the outcome of something outside of your control, right? Here, it's having answers on a timeline that you want, or feel you need, in order to make a decision. Have you already sent follow-up thank yous? If not, that's a great place to start, to remind them why you're a great candidate and they need you on their team. Otherwise, I'd wait a couple more days (it's been my experience on both the candidate and manager side that the process can take longer than wanted for everyone) and then politely follow up, indicating that they'd mentioned a specific timeline (by "early this week") and you were curious, as you had a couple other offers pending. Good luck! I have my fingers crossed!