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Laurie Halter

302

Helping women "rear" careers and families

11/06/20 at 10:04PM UTC

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What lesson will you take from 2020?

Hi FGB community! I'm writing an article exploring what lessons women can take from 2020 and how they will use them in 2021, I'd love your help! What is one lesson you've learned this last year and how will you use it to make for a better 2021? If I use your comment, your name will appear in the article (or you can choose to remain anonymous!) I'll start - one lesson I learned in 2020 is my optimism is greater than any life event going on around me. I will use this information to set better boundaries around negative people and energy sappers in 2021. Thank you in advance! Can't wait to hear your answers!

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Jasmine Stauffer

11/08/20 at 4:06PM UTC

Transparency and vulnerability are key when you’re struggling to meet expectations.... not every woman manager can understand your circumstance. My boss. a woman, doesn’t have children’s and hasn’t been able to grasp the fact that employees with children have more on their plate. Me being 100% transparent with her about my situation. Living in a politically charged hotbed, racial intentions and a pandemic it’s hard. But ok top of all of that general stuff, I’m awaiting a medical diagnosis and I’m getting a divorce. It can be hard to keep up with a lot of curve balls. Give them in an insight. Try to tell them how they can help you and be open to the feedback. You don’t know how you’re doing until someone tells you.

Laurie Halter

302

Helping women "rear" careers and families

11/10/20 at 5:17PM UTC

Wow Jasmine, you've had a lot thrown at you. Congrats on your resiliency and here's hoping your boss gets with it and backs you up in the way you deserve.

Tamara Roberts

11/08/20 at 3:02PM UTC

I have learned that what seems like simple knowledge to me isn't to everyone else. That everyone truly learns differntly. Someone ppl need pictures, some ppl need you to spell it out, some ppl need you to demo. For example how to wear a mask, what does quarantine really mean. Working as a nurse it is amazing when I get a patient with Covid and when people say yes I have been staying in this whole time, but then they go on to say they just had a dinner party or just went out to church and didn't wear their mask to churh because their faith would protect them. Or When you go in public and ppl think that moving their mask to talk quick is ok, or wearing under their nose is ok. Teaching teaching teaching.

Laurie Halter

302

Helping women "rear" careers and families

11/10/20 at 5:16PM UTC

THANK YOU for being on the front lines, Tamara!

Anonymous

11/08/20 at 2:15PM UTC

I learned I need to reinforce my boundaries between workplace and personal. Ensure coworkers understand my personal life is just that, my personal life. Video meetings do not open my personal life to questions or discussion.

Laurie Halter

302

Helping women "rear" careers and families

11/10/20 at 5:15PM UTC

Oh my goodness, do not even get me started on the Zoom meetings!

Jodie Johnson

243

Integrity Matters!

11/08/20 at 2PM UTC

I went from member at a gym, to friends with the owner, to an instructor for her: Biggest mistake I ever made in a workplace! If someone can fake an entire friendship, you best believe they are faking competence in business and in their interpersonal lives.

Laurie Halter

302

Helping women "rear" careers and families

11/10/20 at 5:15PM UTC

So sorry to hear this, Jodie! Hoping things are heading in the right direction for you now?

Jodie Johnson

243

Integrity Matters!

11/11/20 at 12:50AM UTC

Thanks Laurie! Yes, it certainly is. All the best to you! ?

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Danielle White

IT Ops professional at large

11/08/20 at 3:41AM UTC

It's worth trusting your heart and mind on taking a risk to have something better. This one is part of a process that reaches back to 2015; it's a story of divorce to escape a bad relationship, moving half-way across the country for a new one without a job lined up, that one not working out, finding a new love (and marrying again) and finding a new job that I enjoy. It was a risk that paid off but everyone was telling me not to take and felt embarrassed to a degree, like being told "it would be easier to say to your college-age niece why you were moving if you had a job lined up."

Laurie Halter

302

Helping women "rear" careers and families

11/10/20 at 5:14PM UTC

Awesome story, Danielle! I am a HUGE fan of risk takers! So thrilled to hear of your happy ending!

Ellysa Smith

240

Curator Engagement Lightkeeper

11/08/20 at 1:32AM UTC

One lesson I learned in 2020 is that despite how hard or difficult change can be, there are always blessings to be grateful for. Each trial is an opportunity to show faith, trust, and endurance in preparation for the next challenge.

Laurie Halter

302

Helping women "rear" careers and families

11/10/20 at 5:13PM UTC

I love this, Ellysa!

Little But Fierce

Versatile leader in New York City area

11/07/20 at 3:12PM UTC

I've learned that I love working from home 100%, but not everyone feels the same - some of my team members would rather be in the office, and will be happy when that's possible again. I've been enjoying turning inwards instead of outwards, being grateful for what I have while trying to help others in need through targeted donations while I still have a job. I feel like it's good karma to give while you can, and if there ever comes a day when you need help, help will be there for you too.

Laurie Halter

302

Helping women "rear" careers and families

11/10/20 at 5:13PM UTC

Yes and believe me, as an extrovert, turning inward is something I've been working on - not succeeding - but working on. Thank you for sharing!

Monique Johnson, Ed.D.

274

Career Strategist and Principal DEI Consultant

11/07/20 at 2:25PM UTC

I've learned several lessons but the most important is to not take for granted the loved ones in your life because things can change so quickly. Make each moment count and spend less time worrying over things that don't matter. The other is that flexibility and agility are important qualities to possess in the workplace and in our day to day lives. It's enabled me to be even more compassionate to others.

Laurie Halter

302

Helping women "rear" careers and families

11/10/20 at 5:12PM UTC

Yes! As I keep telling my kids during distance learning, we are not necessarily learning about history, math etc here as much as we are learning resiliency and making the best of a difficult situation. thank you for sharing!

Monique Johnson, Ed.D.

274

Career Strategist and Principal DEI Consultant

11/11/20 at 2:48AM UTC

So true.

Mary Donohue Miele

Dream Big, Dig Deep!

11/07/20 at 2:12PM UTC

The world is changing. I had to really take a look at who I am in these evolving times. I realized that I need to have more than one avenue to bring in leveraged income. With the world as it is today we are now moving in a new direction in the workplace. It’s time to flip the switch on the ways we do business. Days of sticking with one job at one place are slowly being replaced by the “gig” economy. Multiple avenues to stream in leveraged income. I know longer want to trade time for money. I want to be a business owner securing my own financial future. I’m working with a team to expand my company’s patents globally. The expanding of a new way of taking care of your health through Nutrigenomics & biohacking your DNA. A publicly listed company, with patents and in the pre-momentum stage. Thanks,

Laurie Halter

302

Helping women "rear" careers and families

11/10/20 at 5:11PM UTC

THiS. IS. AWESOME!

Jackie Ghedine

5.71k

Coach for Gen X Women | Jack Russell of Humans

11/07/20 at 12:09PM UTC

Hi Laurie! Great question. One thing I learn in 2020 is this, we as humans are terrible predictors of our emotions and the impact situations and circumstances would have on us. If we were asked this time last year, what you would do if you had to lock down for two months, we would have predicted the worst. Our ability to adapt and pivot is greater than our mind leads us to believe.