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Anonymous
11/13/20 at 7:05PM UTC (Edited)
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I started a job 6 mos. ago, and while I'm blessed to be working during the pandemic, it's a bad fit. I hate the job and the anxiety that come with it. I've been working remotely from day 1, but I haven't felt welcomed. I have no goals or objectives, my boss is M.I.A. and refuses to do touch bases. I have tried to reach out to others in the organization and my team to get better acquainted w the company and the culture, but it's been very hard to get to know people's personalities virtually. I've made suggestions on areas that I think I can work on and create more effective strategies, but I have received no feedback from my boss. After 90 days, there was no review or feedback, same after 6 months. I can't really gauge if I'm doing a poor job or a good job. There's no dept. goals, and I've been struggling to establish goals for the dept/team because none have been set for me in this new position. I get the impression that the position was created with no idea what they wanted the position to be responsible for. I also found out that the company is going public, so that brings stress and change along w everyone trying to manage the pandemic and the economic and political changes that are going on. I'm bored despite trying to create things to do for myself and trying to define the job for myself. I have attended company sponsored webinars, I've completed the HR onboarding training, but that's the only onboarding I've received. I've gone through the share drive to try to get a better understanding of the department and the needs of the department. There's not many documented policies and procedures, so I've been creating documentation. I've also worked along side of my team in the day to day tasks to get a better understanding of their jobs and the frustrations. I've been criticized for focusing too much on those day to day functions. All in all, it's just not what I'm looking for in my next chapter. I'm looking for a boss who isn't a micromanager, but who is available and supportive. I'm looking for a baseline or starting point where I can get familiar with the company, its mission, and where they're going next. I'm all for working hard and I understand things are difficult now w/ the pandemic, and companies needing to pivot, but I'm not down for mission impossible. So, I've continued to look for a job during this time, and the other day I saw that my position was posted on one of the job boards. I haven't spoken to anyone about it, and no one has mentioned it to me. I also haven't expressed that I'm unhappy w the job to anyone. But it's clear that while I've been looking to make an exit, the co./dept is looking to replace me and may have beat me to the punch. Has anyone else experienced this? Any advice on how I should handle this? Should I remain quiet and continue my job search while waiting for them to let me know, or should I let them know that I know that they're planning to replace me? In all honesty, I'd rather get it over w/ now and get out of hell. I'm not independently wealthy by any means, but I have 6 mos of savings in the bank, though in this current economic climate, I anticipate that it'll take me longer to find a position, especially since I don't want to jump out of the fire into the frying pan. But the money isn't a concern of mine because I have a side hustle and my husband works as well. Any advice or suggestions on how proceed forward? UPDATE: I was terminated today. I received a request for a Zoom meeting with my boss and his right hand man. My boss has refused to meet with me the entire 6 mos and I thought the request was strange. I asked for an agenda for the meeting, and then all of a sudden I received an IM and was asked to jump on a Zoom call immediately. I got on the Zoom, my boss, his right hand man, and HR were on the call. HR introduced herself, and stated that they didn't feel that I was a good fit for the company. They terminated me immediately, and told me that I'd be eligible for unemployment. My boss and his right hand man said nothing on the call.

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Anonymous
11/16/20 at 2:28AM UTC
I wish you the best of luck! I am currently temping and wfh and it’s been working well for me. I hope you can find a new wfh position. I have temped in the past too and it’s so easy for companies to let people go!
Anonymous
11/21/20 at 1:29AM UTC
Thanks Anon!
Tabbi Kinion
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11/14/20 at 3:57PM UTC
Wow - aren’t you glad to not work for these people anymore? This is an extreme example of poor management. They posted your position while you were in the position?!? That is the worst! Now you have your unemployment pay to help you find a much better situation. This is a blessing even if being terminated stings. You were set up to fail and now you are solid in what you are looking for. Lessons learned hard are the best learned lessons!
Anonymous
11/21/20 at 1:27AM UTC
Hi Tabbi, thanks for the response. I'm relived and will take my time finding the right fit. I'm just glad I'm not anxiously awaiting them to hand me my walking papers anymore.
Anonymous
11/13/20 at 7:06PM UTC
Thanks everyone for the comments. The update to the situation is that I was terminated today. I was told that I wasn't a good fit. So on to the next one!
Balanced935126
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11/11/20 at 12:37AM UTC
In my experience, companies who do not communicate like this often will just "let things go" until they find your replacement. I am not saying that's what's happening here. The red flag to me is that an ad from another staging company for your position is up. This happened to me. A friend called pretending to be a staffing company interested in helping ask why the position was open. They were told that the current person wasn't working out and they were not interested in staffing help very rudely. I had no feedback whatsoever after almost 6 months. I called my old job and asked if I could go back, luckily they missed me and offered what I was making at the newer company. Be wary and don't jump to conclusions. Keep the job hunt up, you'll find something. Something isn't right here but until you find something else, let the current company do their thing. If that is the case, they have to tell you at some point. But until then, get another job then give notice.
Anonymous
11/10/20 at 9:47PM UTC
You pointed out that money isn’t the issue for you. I’d highly suggest not working for awhile and focusing on YOU! Right before the pandemic hit I was excited about a new job opportunity I found that looked really good on paper. Unfortunately the operations manager and supervisor weren’t at all people that if I’d had a a choice I would have chosen to work with. They reminded me of bureaucratic types I’ve worked with in the past. I had the worst onboarding experience. The operations manager is a obese, baby boomer with bad knees. She was really unorganized, and blamed a lot on her disability. Yes people have the right to have disabilities and work but, I could see her habits would effect me. The supervisor was a very disrespectful person. She was very rude, had bad communication skills and all in all unpleasant to want to work with. I was furloughed, basically chose not to go back at any capacity. We cannot choose the people we work for and yet they can have very negative impacts on our wellbeing. I haven’t been working and my fitness goals have been the easiest to reach. I really reflect on this considering how gyms closed down also. I have been reflecting on what I want out of a career and based on past experiences I know that I don’t want to deal with difficult coworkers who will dampen my overall mood keeping me from reaching goals outside of work. Please consider taking time to do some self reflection if money isn’t an issue.
Anonymous for a day
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11/10/20 at 8:59PM UTC
I think it's easy to get forgotten as a new employee in this virtual world we're in now. Does the new job description have things you're actually doing? Maybe you could go to your boss and ask to be brought up to speed on those tasks. I wouldn't quit without having another job. Use the time you would be working to job search. One good question for future interviews, ask what they want you to accomplish in the first three months and helps the interviewer see you in the role. Good luck!
Shire Lyon
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11/10/20 at 7:03PM UTC
I agree with everyone else. At the end of the day, if you're unhappy and things don't change, you should probably have an exit strategy anyway. I would give them the benefit of the doubt, but always have a plan.
Krista
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11/10/20 at 4:22PM UTC
I'll start with suggesting to you to make data driven decisions, seconding the watch out for misunderstandings. This has been a crummy situation for everyone and some people are so overwhelmed themselves that it's difficult to help others. As to the posting there could be a lot of explanations, just approach finding out cautiously. You are in an interesting position where it seems like you might be able to make the job be what you'd like it to be, shape it into something that you find meaningful for yourself and the company, if you wanted to consider sticking around. Why did you take this job to begin with? If there were things that drew you to it maybe you can pull them out. It doesn't hurt to keep your eyes open, just remember the grass isn't always greener and it might not reflect well on your resume to be in a position such a short time. On the lighter side, sounds like maybe you both like pina coladas ;) Best of luck, short term try focusing on remembering that you're doing your best and reduce the stress you're feeling, easier words for me to say than do, I'm totally a stresser but I know that a lot of it I am putting on myself.
Anonymous
11/10/20 at 4:49PM UTC
Hi Krista, thanks for the response. I took the job because though I've been in finance for years, I was interested in learning the mortgage industry. It's just been extremely hard to connect with ppl. I've reached out and introduced myself to others virtually, trying to make connections. I know the grass isn't always greener, and I hate wasting time. I've been trying to create my own lane here, but it's hard with no goals or context. I don't want to step outside my lane, but I'm not really sure what it is either with zero feedback.
Krista
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11/10/20 at 7:18PM UTC
In my experience no feedback is usually because you're doing fine. It's unfortunate but usually the case. While you're there try creating your own goals and pave your lane. And as you're already doing keep eyes open for other opportunities. I recently was assigned short term to help another group because I had time available. I was given very limited direction and one of the few comments from management was "wow I didn't realize you had gotten involved in so much" still unclear if that was good or not. When I was finished and did hand offs I got zero response or feedback, so I understand how uncomfortable that is. But while I was there I had a person thank me for the work I did, even though they werent management I try and use that to remind myself I did something useful for someone. If you have good feedback from anyone you've worked with save that in "kudos" file to remind yourself you're great :)
Audrey Nickel
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11/10/20 at 3:27PM UTC
Ugh...I don't envy your position at all! What an uncomfortable situation to be in! I know you said your boss is non-responsive, but have you tried asking him about that job listing? You don't have to say that you're looking (you could say, for example, that a friend brought the listing to your attention). Maybe say something along the lines of "A friend sent me this link. Is there something I should be aware of?" Whatever happens, you definitely have my sympathy!
Anonymous
11/10/20 at 3:31PM UTC
Hi Audrey, thanks for the response. No, I haven't mentioned it to my boss. I can't even get him to answer the phone or an e-mail. I've learned that not hearing from him is better. When I do occasionally hear from him is because he wants something like yesterday, but he's just asking me about it now w/ no direction or clarity.
Anonymous
11/10/20 at 3:14PM UTC (Edited)
I am exactly where you are with the added criteria of nepotism. It’s tough to not feel defeated before logging on every morning to work. Here’s some words of encouragement while you’re in transition ... remember your ‘why’ and maybe that’ll help you hang in there until things gets better at your current company or at least manage the emotions while you map out your exit plan. I always have to remind myself that I work FOR my family & myself....and I work AT ______. Wherever that workplace is, don’t forget your self worth & protect your dignity and character. Best of luck to you and know that you’re not alone!
Anonymous
11/10/20 at 3:24PM UTC
Thanks you so much for the kind words Anon. You're so right!

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