My boss and I are book-matched opposites.
I recognized this dynamic about a year ago and do what I feel is reasonable to create a harmonious and productive work environment. It's not without moments of mutual frustration. The biggest two for me are one - when I offer constructive feedback, it's met retaliatory critiques, and two - every idea I offer gets shot down immediately and is implemented later, when it can perceived as his.
Given the first frustration, how would you recommend I address the second one?
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Anonymous
I could have written this post myself. In my case, I have decided to make the most of a crap situation, so I will keep offering feedback and ideas but take the credit personally. When ideas do get implemented, even later on when my boss may perceive those ideas as her own, I can use all of the data resulting from
that change at the very least to spin my next interview to highlight the benefits *my ideas* brought. Obviously, I’ll leave out the gap in time and the part where my supervisor is stealing all of the credit.
In your case, too, maybe changing your approach when offering ideas and solutions could be the trick. If you’re just offering ideas off the cuff, you could schedule a meeting instead. Or vice versa. If you’re approaching problems from a personal standpoint, try to use feedback from third parties instead. It’s hard to work for people with fragile egos; sometimes you gotta get creative to survive.
Vanda Lee
You're being used for your ideas... start looking for another position where you will be appreciated.