Leaving dream employer during pandemic because of a toxic team - thoughts appreciated
September 25,2020 at 5:29PM UTC (Edited)
Hello, appreciate any thoughts on my dilemma.
I'm in my 30s and my career is in urban planning. I graduated during the Great Recession and much to my dismay, took my first "planning" job to be a zoning consultant for telecommunications companies - the "dark side" of planning, but for a very good company that I respected. I loved the company and stayed for 5.5 years, far past my planned exit date, until I decided that it was "now or never" to be the public-sector planner I thought I wanted to be.
I applied and was accepted to my dream City employer in a major metropolitan area in a job that I would not otherwise choose but would get my foot in the door - plus, it paid really well for the work.
In planning, there is typically long-range (visioning the city 20-50 years in the future) and permitting, which is to review plans and issue permits for new structures or changing uses on a property, etc.
I am in permitting, which is quite interesting and challenging work, but my teammates and utterly toxic (yell and argue in meetings, stonewall, don't share information), and the supervisor is good-hearted but utterly and woefully incompetent.
He doesn't actively supervise that work is getting done, we have to let him know when things are getting bad - such as no one assigned to answer the phone, customers' emails go unanswered, and the work received simply piles up and isn't processed, because several employees are just simply - not working at all.
The few remaining employees who feel bad for the public overexert themselves on their shift rotation of calling people back and answering their questions, essentially martyring themselves and their personal lives to keep the department afloat.
I've asked the supervisor multiple times in our 1 on 1's to consider checking to make sure that shifts are covered (he doesn't), to consider a strategy complete work faster and more easily as we lose employees during the pandemic, to complete the work that is quickly piling up that is not getting done.
To make matters worse, since the pandemic, he has canceled every weekly meeting except a handful. Requests for communication are met with silence. Employees don't communicate with each other. I had to "tattle" to his supervisor that we hadn't had any weekly meetings in months. The supervisor knows his level of competence is low, but doesn't/can't do anything because he is a very nice person, universally beloved at the city (oh yes, even I agree he is a wonderful person), and has worked here for 20+ years (has never worked any where else), and has no plans to retire as he isn't even eligible due to age.
I suffer from major depression and have for several years, and I'm high-functioning, but this job has made it almost unbearable; I can't make myself happy. My dilemma now is that I have a job offer from another jurisdiction. It pays significantly less ($62,500 vs $73,000) and would be a major career turn to leave a major city for a rural county.
My prospective coworkers are professionals, while my current coworkers are unprofessional and malign, but I'm worried that I'm sabotaging my career for peace of mind and professional normalcy.
That's about as much as I can muster, and again appreciate any thoughts.
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