I read an article in FGB about some of the sexist things that one accidentally says at work. I am not sure whether what I am writing about here falls under that category and am looking for some guidance from the fellow team members here on how to cope up with them and respond to them without getting annoyed.
Whenever I chance upon meeting an old acquaintance or a former team member or senior, non-executive board members and we are having this small talk before getting to the business at hand, I am invariably asked how old my children are, how I am managing to work full time in spite of their choc a bloc schedule w.r.t their studies and even have to hear one of those sinister (in the guise of well meaning) remarks on how they hope I have not left them in the lurch!
Since I co-own a business, many of these contacts including a few family members just assume that I am here only during my free time to help out my spouse or keep an eye on him (for God's sake!). Somehow the fact that I am heading an independent business unit and am actively contributing to the company's revenue gets totally ignored.
Most of the times I manage to keep myself composed in the face of such derision (intentional or otherwise) but sometimes they really get under my skin and I find myself fuming without knowing how to vent it out. It happened just a fortnight ago when an old friend I was chatting with, who was a mechanical engineer herself until a few years ago asked casually whether I was still assisting at work or had given it up. It is during moments like these that I get confused about what my response should be; whether I should - bare my teeth and bark at her or just carry on as though I did not hear those words.
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He owned a restaurant and my mom wants me to run that now. I was planning to start a pre-school. Now I am confused about which one to do. The restaurant is ready, I just need to start and on the other hand the pre-school has to be built up yet. What should I do?
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I recently was laid off from my job of 7+ years.
I sort of fell into the role, and I'm not sure if it's what I want to continue doing. The issue is, it's fairly difficult to break into a new industry when all of my professional experience is in another field. I'm not even quite sure what direction I'd like to go in, but I'm really fed up with the corporate world, and would really like to explore other options. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
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Recently I have been in a transition in my life circumstances and I find myself looking for a 10 hr a week job.
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I have an interview tomorrow and the place i am interviewing with wants me to fill out an "Acknowledgement of Education and Experience Verification" form that requires for me to select 1 of 2 options: 1) Yes, my current employer does know that I am interviewing and the agency's Human Resources office has my permission to verify my work, both performance and experience, with my current employer at this time OR 2) No, I do not wish to have the agency's Human Resources Office contact my present employer at this time.
If i am selected for a position and accept, I understand that my current employer will then be asked to verify my experience.
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I'm looking to make no less than $22/hr.
Should I still list that amount even if the job posting the pay is $25/hr?
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