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I think I am losing it during WFH! Control that is...
I thought I would have WFH under control by now, but with debate about students not going back to school, I think I'm losing it. I love having more time with my family, but I guess I always saw September as the end of (part of) the road. Homeschooling with two full-time parents was really difficult, and I don't feel safe bringing in extra help.
How can I regain control over my home life while working and parenting full time?
Anonymous
07/30/20 at 5:52PM UTC
Agreed! You are not alone! Maintaining structure is CRITICAL! This is essential whether you are at home or at work in a building. Stay true to your schedule
Kim Bulinsky
I have the admin ninja's every business needs!
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07/30/20 at 12:54PM UTC
We are ALL in this boat, trust and believe. I have 2 small children at home, I am trying to continue to scale my business and my husband is on the road 3 out of 4 weeks a month, it is taxing at best. You have to really structure your day. Time blocking is a must even if it is 30 minutes at a time. Also, and this is key, take time for yourself, again, even if only 30 minutes a day. I get up at 5 daily so I can have quiet coffee and read, that is not for everyone, but to keep you sane you have to do something. Go drive around the neighborhood and listen to a book, or your favorite music, or a podcast, take a hot bath (door locked), recharge you and you will find you have more stamina to structure your day and handle all of the 'things'. This will end (I wish someone would tell me when though!) and we will all realize how well we actually did!
Laura McCannDriving results through people engagement
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07/29/20 at 2:58PM UTC
My sister is having a similar issue right now! She has a teenager watching her elementary school kiddos this summer and they will continue this into the fall. They will all do their distance learning.
Maura Smith
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07/29/20 at 2:26PM UTC
Depending on the ages of your kids, have a family meeting about whatever your decision is. And what your goals and hopes and expectations are during this time. p.s. I'm so with you. I'm a solo (widowed) mom with 3 young girls and work full time. I do have an au pair for some of that time, but that will be ending in Feb. and no new ones are allowed in at the moment. Stay present and take it day by day.
Jameeka Green AaronCISO in California
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07/28/20 at 9:46PM UTC
Give yourself some grace. I don't have any children and I too, am losing it.
For me the key to regaining my sense of control and ultimate peace of mind, lies in how I prepare. I start with a loose checklist of the things that are causing me angst. I immediately split the list into 2 lists. 1.Things I actually control / 2. Things I do not control. For example, you cannot control if your children return to the classroom this fall. You can however, control how prepared they are. Do you have the space to set up an ideal learning environment for them? Do they have the technology that they need, and are you familiar with it. Can you hire a virtual tutor who does video sessions with your children? Can you leverage what you already have to enhance the learning experience (connecting computers to flat screens for a better learning experience). Have you made recommendations to the school board that might help solve the safety concerns related to students returning?
Just a few thoughts.... but mostly, know that you are not alone, and that kids are incredibly resilient. They will likely bounce back before we do.
Amy SpellmanOffice manager, EA to C-suite, Creator of Fun
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07/23/20 at 8:44PM UTC
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!!!! I was just about to post my own post about this! We have been working remote since March and there is no talking about us going back. I too have a 1 boy - age 16 as of today... Spring online school was a disaster and believe me when I say high school algebra is no fun! Now, our school is doing online again this fall, so we have that to look forward to and my husband is an educator and his school district is possibly going back. I just pray the lessons to the kids are a little more involved than the Spring because there was little to no interaction with the teachers this past Spring. So, yes, I understand you feeling like you're losing it!
As for how to regain control, I think you just need to give yourself grace. Be mindful of your mental health - allow yourself to relax which may mean you have to tell the family, I'm locking myself away in my room for 20 minutes - don't bother me. Do what makes you happy and try to have faith that "this too, shall pass." (I keep saying this over and over in my head!)
You got this!!! You're a mom! We CAN DO anything!
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