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Anonymous
05/06/20 at 2:17PM UTC
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I was recently laid off. Just like millions of others. I was work friends with a co-worker. Not exactly a work spouse but we would talk often outside of work and she even invited me to get home once. We would take smoke breaks together. Exc. I really thought we were friendly. Anyway fast forward to a few weeks ago. I stopped smoking, but I told her I enjoyed our break time chatting and I would still go with her on breaks. The smoke didn’t bother me. Since then she said she didn’t want to tempt me so that was okay. We stopped talking on the phone and only started waving hi and bye to each other with an occasional bit of polite small talk. When I got laid off she called to check on me. Then she said she had a meeting she had to attend but she would call me back to give me the laid off scoop. She never did. When I called her, she never answered and I took the hint. I guess my question is what happened? I get that she is scared as well and has to protect her job, but why call me in the first place? Or say that you’ll call back. I know workplace friendships are usually transactional but still. I’m a little bummed. Anyone care to share some insight?

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McCord Underwood
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05/07/20 at 1:22PM UTC
Thank you. I appreciate that. My friends told me that too. Great minds think alike. ?
Anonymous
05/07/20 at 1:25AM UTC
Sorry you're going through this! I've definitely had really strong work friendships that I was shocked to see fizzle when I no longer worked there. It's normal and natural, even though it's sad. It could be that your friend just doesn't know what to say to you and is scared of making things worse. She could also feel guilty for still having a job. Plenty of possibilities, but try not to spend too much time or energy on anyone who doesn't give it back. Hang in there. You'll get through this.

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