I may have been born into a socio-economically disadvantaged family and raised by a single mother, but I'm privileged. Why? I'm privileged because I'm white. My race, ethnicity, and sexual orientation haven't ever played a role in the way that the world treats me. No one has ever perceived me as a potential threat because I'm a short, white woman. My privilege never created issues for me that I saw my friends of color experience. It isn't just that I simply can't be silent any longer. It feel as though I have been shouting from the rooftops. "We Can't" be silent as a society any longer. If we continue to remain silent, racism will continue.
We can't breathe (George Floyd).
We can’t go jogging (Amaud Arbery).
We can’t relax in the comfort of our own homes (Bothem Sean and Atatiana Jefferson).
We can't ask for help after being in a car crash (Jonathan Ferrell and Renisha McBride).
We can't have a cellphone (Stephon Clark).
We can't leave a party to get to safety (Jordan Edwards).
We can't play loud music (Jordan Davis).
We can’t sell CD's (Alton Sterling).
We can’t sleep (Aiyana Jones).
We can’t walk from the corner store (Mike Brown).
We can’t play cops and robbers (Tamir Rice).
We can’t go to church (Clementa C. Pinckney, Cynthia Marie Graham Hurd, Susie Jackson, Ethel Lee Lance, Depayne Middleton, Tywanza Sanders, Daniel L. Simmons, Sharonda Coleman-Singleton, Myra Thompson).
We can’t walk home with Skittles (Trayvon Martin).
We can’t hold a hair brush while leaving our own bachelor party (Sean Bell).
We can’t party on New Years (Oscar Grant).
We can’t get a normal traffic ticket (Sandra Bland).
We can’t lawfully carry a weapon (Philando Castile).
We can't break down on a public road with car problems (Corey Jones).
We can’t shop at Walmart (John Crawford).
We can’t have a disabled vehicle (Terrence Crutcher).
We can’t read a book in our own car (Keith Scott).
We can’t be a 10 yr old walking with our grandfather (Clifford Glover).
We can’t decorate for a party (Claude Reese).
We can’t ask a cop a question (Randy Evans).
We can’t cash our check in peace (Yvonne Smallwood).
We can’t take out our wallet (Amadou Diallo).
We can’t run (Walter Scott).
We can’t breathe (Eric Garner).
We can’t live (Freddie Gray).
These are sadly only several recent examples. There are so many more. Violence is not the answer. Rioting is not going to prove a point, but MLK taught us peaceful protests will. The best way to stop hatred is with LOVE. Ghandi said it best, "Be the change you want to see in the world."
Here are some ways that we can be allies to POC (I am focusing on them because it's a hot topic, but it applies to all marginalized populations):
1) Teach your children love. Hate is learned. Talk to your children and other young people about racism.
2) Show respect.
4) Find out about them as a person. Make a connection.
5) Don't make assumptions.
6) Don't take over - stand next to POC.
7) Provide data when met with conflict. It's more difficult to argue with facts.
8) Don't assume you know what it is like to be a POC or what's best for them.
9) Don't be afraid to take risks and make mistakes. That's how we learn.
10) Don't take everything personally.
11) Be honest, open, and understanding in your conversations.
12) Don't allow racism to happen around you. When you're complicit, you're almost as guilty.
13) Don't ask one person to speak on behalf of their entire race.
14) Assume racism is everywhere, every day.
15) Notice who is the center of attention and who is the center of power.
16) Notice how racism is denied, minimized, marginalize, and justified.
17) Understand and learn from the history of whiteness and racism. Study voter suppression if you need someplace to start.
18) Understand the connections between racism, economic issues, sexism, and other forms of injustice.
19) Take a stand against injustice. Intervene in situations where racism is occurring.
20) Be strategic. Decide what is important to challenge and what’s not. Attack the
source of power.
21) Don’t confuse a battle with the war.
22) Don’t call names or be personally abusive. It's an easy trap that lowers us to their level.
23) Support the leadership of people of color. VOTE!
24) Learn something about the history of white people who have worked for racial justice.
25) Don’t do it alone. You will not end racism by yourself.
Above all, choose love.
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Has anyone left their full time toxic job for a contract role ?
I work with a very condescending, micromanaging manager and honestly it makes me sick to my stomach every time she puts a 1:1 on my calendar. I currently have a part time contract role that is way better environment wise, but no benefits. They offered me more hours and I am considering it.
Additional info: Contract role is well paying and is a level up from my current role. So pays more, better environment.
what would you do in my shoes ?
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My manager does not listen.
she will jump in and take the conversation in the wrong direction and provide wrong information.
I tried telling her the client had issues with something, she cut me off and said the contract is under review that’s why the issues. It sounded wrong so I clarified but she further explained the contract being in review. I know my information was clear therefore I believed her. During a meeting with my client I passed along the info and they had no idea there was contract issues and after they emailed my boss and I.
my boss responded that she was not aware of any contact issues. Now the client is confused why I told them there were issues and even questioning my abilities.
She has done stuff like this before, today in a different client meeting she made me look incompetent.
how do I address this with my boss or do I just ignore her when she does it? my worry is sounding childish and being a complainer but I also don’t care to look bad to clients.
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Approaching month 7 of being laid off.
I recently got my job rejection letter after 3 rounds of a (seemingly) successful interview process; which took a total of 2 months, BTW. I am of course left feeling DEFEATED, however. I am wondering if there should have been something within the months-long process I could have done or inquired about etc.? Like a clue to have let me know hey, they aren't as serious about hiring you as it appears. Just in an effort to be better prepared for next time, that was a huge waste of time I actually missed out on the Job Fair
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