My grandmother recently died and although my mom had been her primary caretaker for 20 years and especially in the last year when my grandmother required special care, my extended family flew in for the funeral to take credit for her care. I was quite disgusted by their unethical behavior. I also have a cousin who has increased competition and unnecessary debates with me recently and the side he picks usually involve sacrificing some well-meaning group (for example, downplaying covid risks though he was first to get vaccine and my family got covid due to his downplaying its risks). I heard he is going through some personal tragedies; I reached out to support him but he seemed to want to compete instead. I think I just need to forget about him and other more terrible family members and move on but I’m finding that much harder in practice. Any advice?