Today, I was reminded of a time when my son decided to cut his own hair in the car on the way to grandma’s house. He was maybe 5 years old and he had packed his “go bag” with art supplies and toys, which happened to include a pair of scissors. I did not think at the time that he would attempt to use his scissors for ill-advised purposes in my presence, let alone while I was driving at high rates of speed across the Ohio turnpike. Fortunately, scissors are far more safe than what they were back in my young days – no loss of eyes or serious injuries in this story but he was left with a sizable gap in his bangs for many months.
The gap in his hairline became a constant reminder for all of us. For my son, it was not to use scissors for cutting hair. For me, it was to set clear expectations for my children (and others) prior to activities to head off (no pun intended) any ineffective performance. Everyday, I was more cognizant to coach my children on what I might mistake as obvious aspects of daily life. This pre-emptive coaching and clarification of expectations helped to manage behavior and avoided “gaps” in the future.
Visual cues are powerful. They influence our day-to-day decision-making and buying preferences. They can stir emotional responses to media campaigns. I employ them freely around my home with messages to “Be Kind,” “Dream Big”, and “Love.” I can be pragmatic with them as well with notes about “library books” and we have posters my sons have drawn depicting the house rules. Working from my home, I take advantage of having my own space and post vision boards and position tranquil momentos around my office that keep me centered. I also have post it notes that remind me to “breathe” and to “seek first.”
What about you? What visual cues do you reference? Do you find them helpful at home and work?
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Not one to whine . . . and yet here I am.
I can see the appeal of a mindless job that just pays the bills and I never have to think about a "career" again . . . am I giving up??
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I have a bossy coworker (male) who has usurped by (female) boss's authority previously, and attempted to do it again today.
He has derailed work meetings by questioning me, and my boss doesn't interfere or interrupt at all. She didn't question his previous action, which basically took a job duty away from me and appropriated it for himself. I asked her about it, and whether it was permanent. She indicated (vaguely) that it wasn't, but she didn't seem too worried about it. It was his area of expertise, so I let it go. If he wants to reduce my workload, I'll just spend that time posting to FGB!
He sent an email today, cc'ing her, and gave me some orders outside of his wheelhouse. I spent at least an hour writing a draft that detailed my level of knowledge and how I didn't need to do what he insisted on, then decided to simply say I'll do whatever our boss says in a reply-all response.
The other email would have been sent to my boss's boss and someone else in the organization who supervises my stakeholders, and the supervisor of my stakeholders.... and I wanted to cc' others as well.
But I felt that would have been a jerk move response to a jerk move.
I'm proud of myself for standing up for myself and keeping it brief, but now I know I really need to discuss it with my boss, and she doesn't have time for this nonsense.
What would your next step be, hive mind?