I have been at my place of employment for one year now.
So far I like the job and I can see myself moving up in the company, but I feel I don’t have any connections with my coworkers. All of them seem to get along with each other and seek each other out in conversation but I can’t help but feel left out. I know a lot of people would say that’s a good thing and to keep things strictly professional, you don’t have to talk to them, well I have yet to see that in person where a person just goes to work and doesn’t talk to at least one of their coworkers. You pretty much see these people as much as your family if not more so I feel it’s good to build connections or a network at least. Not sure what to do or if I should do anything. Even though I’m introverted I do reach out and try to talk to them but when I do they make it super awkward and and say things like oh so you’re coming over to talk to us or ask for help? Because all of them have been there longer so sometimes I will ask them a question if need be but it’s occasionally. Also I notice the workplace is more chill than I’m used to. Hardly any raises and no performance reviews which in a sense is nice because it isn’t micromanaged and I don’t feel stress or pressure, but aside from that I have no idea where I am performance wise as I don’t get any feedback.
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Dawn McDonnell
My advice is focus on yourself building up more tools for your tool box. Ask if there are opportunities to learn more with company paid education,, use them for enhancing your skills and START looking for other opportunities that you will learn earn and growth with, After a year of work more communication and performance reviews is a natural process in an organization that is looking to grow and provide their employees with a culture of team work and goals for both the employee and the company at large. This is a management, and a board leadership issue. Time to leave girl and gettter going
maria rose
This site gets a lot of posts from individuals who feel, for lack of a better word, isolated from their coworkers because they are not being made part of social group, not in terms of working but in terms of gossiping, again not the ideal word. Without knowing the exact layout of the workplace, most of these individuals are working in an office setting and not in a job setting that requires they keep full concentration on their job duties. Which begs the question, how do these same individuals manage to make friends in non-work environments and why do they have to get involved in such close friendships at work when they have friends and a personal life outside the workplace. I am not saying that one should be not aware and responsive to one’s coworkers but one was never hired to become BFFs with everyone else but to perform the job hired for and getting paid to do. Sure there are job that require the entire team to work together and discuss and motivate together but I don’t perceive that the OP is describing that kind of workplace in their dissatisfaction with no close workplace friendships. If one wants to get to know someone, one has to put in effort. So if you don’t talk to people until they talk to you directly and you want to get to know them you have to be willing to engage yourself.
Dawn McDonnell
Spot on - If it’s all women than my friend it’s a different dynamic than working with a higher percentage of men. Depending on your industry and culture of the company . Gossip and chit chat , being left out of lunch , after work activities can be good or not so good depending on your attitude and position . Dudes often don’t get into that gossipy chatty chatty world,. They got other challenges .
If you out there want something gooooo get it. It’s not utopia , that’s why they call it work,