Where's she going to go?"
Yes, once upon a time, I had a skip-level boss that said those very words when my name came up in a bonus incentive planning meeting. Two of the managers from that meeting told me about it, and both said they would go to HR with me to report him. Turns out, it was the best insult I ever got.
As I came out of shock, I said, "He's right. He shouldn't have said that, but I bet a lot of people were thinking it." I thanked my colleagues for letting me know, but decided not to make a case with HR. Instead, I made a case with myself: get out of that situation.
Within 6 months, I had a job offer with an $8,000 salary increase. Going into the new job, I promised myself I would always be able to walk away from a job.
Since then, I've never let a year go by without interviewing with at least two companies. This practice has forced me to keep my resume up to date, my interviewing skills sharp, and more than once, landed me a new job, including a few that were career changes.
Of course, not every interview led to an offer, but every interview did catch me up on what skills were in demand, the going salaries, vacation policies, and the like. These interviews grew my network across industries.
And from each of the offers that I did get, but decided not to take, I was able to refresh my career in the current job with the reminder that I was there because I wanted to be, not because I had to be.
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The execs at my company are giving me “weekend homework” and I’m getting sick of it.
Recently, three different execs have approached me on Friday afternoons with requests for project planning/research to be done over the weekend, with a report back on Monday.
I’m in mid-management. I don’t report directly to any of these execs. My direct boss does not work weekends, nor do they require me to do so.
None of the projects I’ve been given thus far are critical to operations, nor are they really within my scope or skill set. It’s nothing I’m unable to do, it’s just a stretch of my usual duties and areas of focus.
On the one hand, I guess I should feel honored that they recognize my abilities, insight, and ideas and are giving me an opportunity to show what I can contribute beyond my JD.
On the other hand, there’s been no explicit mention of opportunities to grow into a larger role or expand my scope and these projects really cut into my time with my husband and son on weekends because I’m either working or feeling anxious, exhausted, and irritated.
It doesn’t feel worth it, frankly - even if there was a big, meaty promotion being offered I’m not sure I’d want it if it meant being consumed by work 24/7.
How can I delicately and professionally decline to work on special projects on my weekends, while not risking the apparent favor of the execs?
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Is it normal for managerial professional roles to have to provide a three month notice of intent to leave or change jobs internally?
I’m finding that positions I’m applying for are not willing to wait three months to onboard me.
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Are the companies listed within the dropdown list on the jobs tab the only companies that have posted jobs?
If so, where can I find a list of all of the FBG employers (posting job or not), so that I can follow them and review their job boards? Thanks.
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last Tuesday (5/14/23) I did a virtual interview powered by HireVue for a target store in my area.
I received notice this morning (5/26/23) that I didn’t get the position. I am not bothered that I did not get it just at odds as to why the HR person addressed me with my nickname and not my name that is on my resume or how I introduced myself on the virtual videos. The email mentioned they could not tell me why I didn’t get hired but that I was not chosen. Has this ever happened to anyone before?
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Hi everyone ,
Are there any good organizations considerable enough for Military widows , who want to work back .I lost my man in uniform in 2021 and after that got into VMware that was very well going off but with VMware's sudden acquisitions , my job is at risk and I am looking for new role.
I am a functional QA tester working at P-2 band. please someone can help and guide me .I have 2 kids 4 n 10 year to be taken care of .
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My boss asked if I would be interested in a role that will be opening up later this year due to a planned retirement.
She had already talked to her boss, and they thought I would be a good fit.
I’d be going from a senior manager role where my team is 13 people to a director role managing a team of 35. This group is part of a company that we purchased, and part of my role would be to help transition into the way we do things. As my company was also purchased about 1.5 years ago, I’ve been through what they are going through and think I could really help them. I definitely want to be considered for the role. My question is, what is a reasonable expectation for a raise on such a promotion?
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