Perfectionism - the many faces

Question

Are you guilty of perfectionism? I know I am. And I'm not saying this while I'm trying to ace an interview or secretly admire my personality. It is getting to me and I am at a stage where the worst of me is out there. I am at a new and complex job where people are not too kind. As much as I can put the blame on others, on introspection, the real problem lies within me. I have been successful in the past and it has gotten to me in such a way that I am not able to accept my current reality. As women, I know we are taught to be perfect and live by those high ideals. This is a shout-out to all those women out there that I see you - you are perfect, but the world and circumstances won't be. So, take it easy, give yourselves a break. I find this article of  Margaret Rutherford especially insightful - https://psyche.co/guides/how-to-get-over-never-good-enough-a-practical-guide

Anonymous · Answer

It’s a false ideal to think that anyone is perfect. Nobody is. People think that they are so when they’re wrong, they can’t or won’t admit it because of insecurities.
My childhood was of being teased and harassed even sometimes threatened by those who consider themselves perfect.
Life is far from perfect in circumstances because humans aren’t.

Anju Babu · Answer

So true, Manquisha. When I think back, I’m not able to understand why I’m not kind to myself while I’m to others, as you said. I hope you found peace in it and soon I will too. Thanks for sharing.

Marquisha Thomas · Answer

YESSSS, I love this. I definitely struggle with it. I am that weird person that is both creative and loves math and numbers, and I am a perfectionist in both areas. Actually, I feel like most areas in my life, I have to constantly remind myself to receive the grace I give others. I agree with what is said above...at least realizing it and addressing it is a good place to start/be.

Anju Babu · Answer

Well said, Jennifer. A false ideal that has consequences that weigh people down to adulthood. Addressing that and the realization make all the difference.

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