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Anju Babu
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Presales Architect at Atos
11/14/20 at 10:45PM UTC
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Perfectionism - the many faces

Are you guilty of perfectionism? I know I am. And I'm not saying this while I'm trying to ace an interview or secretly admire my personality. It is getting to me and I am at a stage where the worst of me is out there. I am at a new and complex job where people are not too kind. As much as I can put the blame on others, on introspection, the real problem lies within me. I have been successful in the past and it has gotten to me in such a way that I am not able to accept my current reality. As women, I know we are taught to be perfect and live by those high ideals. This is a shout-out to all those women out there that I see you - you are perfect, but the world and circumstances won't be. So, take it easy, give yourselves a break. I find this article of Margaret Rutherford especially insightful - https://psyche.co/guides/how-to-get-over-never-good-enough-a-practical-guide

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Anju Babu
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Presales Architect at Atos
11/15/20 at 8:58PM UTC
So true, Manquisha. When I think back, I’m not able to understand why I’m not kind to myself while I’m to others, as you said. I hope you found peace in it and soon I will too. Thanks for sharing.
Marquisha Thomas
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11/15/20 at 4:44PM UTC
YESSSS, I love this. I definitely struggle with it. I am that weird person that is both creative and loves math and numbers, and I am a perfectionist in both areas. Actually, I feel like most areas in my life, I have to constantly remind myself to receive the grace I give others. I agree with what is said above...at least realizing it and addressing it is a good place to start/be.
Anju Babu
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Presales Architect at Atos
11/15/20 at 4:24AM UTC
Well said, Jennifer. A false ideal that has consequences that weigh people down to adulthood. Addressing that and the realization make all the difference.
Anonymous
11/17/20 at 1:07PM UTC
Agreed. Accepting who you are and others as they are leads to a better understanding and realistic expectations.
Anonymous
11/15/20 at 12:25AM UTC
It’s a false ideal to think that anyone is perfect. Nobody is. People think that they are so when they’re wrong, they can’t or won’t admit it because of insecurities. My childhood was of being teased and harassed even sometimes threatened by those who consider themselves perfect. Life is far from perfect in circumstances because humans aren’t.

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