This morning I saw a post on one of the groups that I am in where someone talked about how reaching your goals isn't about being able to find the time. She said that the time is always there and it's just about you prioritizing what it is that you really want. For her that meant being able to juggle a very busy job, a lot of kids, and still finding time to work out and prioritize her nutrition. While I applaud her being able to reach her goals, and I think it's great that she manages to make this time, the more I think about this the more I feel like this approach is kind of toxic. To be clear, I'm not saying that the girl who said this is toxic.
What I mean is that I think this approach to life is toxic. It puts crazy expectations on people and paints people who might be in a different point of their lives or in another mindset as being lazy or undedicated or too unorganized. The truth of the matter is that we are all doing the best we can with our lives at every minute of every day. If you are in a phase of your life where you are managing to exercise every day or eat more vegetables or whatever else is on that checklist of things that "good people" do then I am really happy for you. but there are so many people out there, including me at many points of my life, who are doing everything they can and are just able to get up in the morning, to get dressed and maybe sometime shower. The idea that anyone who isn't making time for fitness is lacking in literally any way completely ignores everything from grief and mental illness to just the seasons of life as they come.
I guess all of this is just to say that I hope everyone is honoring where they are in their lives right this minute, and not holding themselves up to the mirror of what other people are able to accomplish right now. It is an unprecedentedly hard time in the world right now, and so many of us are dealing with loss and fear and financial hardship. Right now is the season to hold on to what is good in our lives, to focus on making the world a better place for others, and the rest of it can just fall into place as it will. So, if right now you aren't exercising, or you haven't eaten a vegetable in a week, or all you can manage to do is put on pants in the morning, it's okay. You're doing a great job.
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My previous employer and I ended on bad terms.
I was PIP'd out and and offered a severance agreement which, if I signed, I would have waived my right to file against the company, but they would say I was a "reduction in force." I did not sign it, and instead filed with the EEOC, case is still in process.
I'm concerned on the background check when a potential employer calls to verify employment, I know they are not allowed to get into any specifics, but can they say I might not be eligible for a rehire? How would I handle this if the new employer comes back and asks about it? Anyone have experience with this?
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How to balance work, kids, spouse, and a dying parent out of state?
The stress is no joke
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Melbourne, FL - Recommended Neighborhoods
im moving to Melbourne, FL for work and will be buying a house. I've seen that there are some nearby cities that seems great (amenities, safety, etc.) Are there certain cities/neighborhoods you'd recommend? Any tips are appreciated!
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When applying to jobs does the time of day or day of week make a difference?
I am currently employed full-time and am actively job hunting, but my availability for applying is primarily during evenings, nights and on weekends.
Besides the circumstance of being unemployed, I suspect that jobs receiving over 100 applications within an hour of being posted may be due to automated application processes.
Given this scenario, do I still stand a chance? I will never be among the first batch of applications, and I’m concerned I might get lost amidst the multitude of others.
I have heard that recruiters tend to look at the first and last batches of applications received. Additionally, I have heard of applicants submitting 100 resumes a day. I don’t know how that’s possible, even if I were unemployed lol. I could never blindly apply to a job, and tailoring my resume to each job opportunity requires time and effort. Unfortunately, I have had 0 offers to interview. I’m starting to wonder if auto apply maybe is the way to go. :/
Thanks in advance for your help! :
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My company is changing my job role.
As a writer, I am supposed to write blogs for my company. My colleagues give me feedback, and I act on it. I am expected to churn out 'the perfect' blog, which won't require a second eye. However, I never get to give feedback on their work, and I see mistakes in their articles after they're published.
February was light, with less workload. However, today my boss told me that they're shifting me from a content writer role to a market researcher role, citing that 'I don't seem to improve even after the feedback'. I have never done market research before.
My mom suspects they are changing my role to avoid hiring a market researcher and also keep me busy. Should I stay or start looking?
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What is the best way to highlight older experience or hidden relevant JD components hidden beneath roles?
After losing my job, I've been considering my options and when I was most engaged with my career. That revolves around entertainment marketing.
I have prior work in the industry but while some of it is recognized on my resume, unfortunately it's older / on my second page and the more recent experience is in industries where you wouldn't traditionally consider creative fields.
In banking, I carved out a niche working on entertainment and sports sponsorships but my title doesn't relate and I'm worried that recruiters spending a short time reviewing applications will dismiss banking and education without taking a deeper dive in terms of what I accomplished in those positions.
I've worked with concerts, musicians, theater groups etc. that ties in to the roles I'm applying for but not hearing anything from the more creative industries. I've looked into nonprofit work trying to channel my experience with fundraising and but while I've done fundraising for entertainment, it's again not easily understood when parsing my resume as the corporate companies had charity divisions.
I'm spending hours customizing my resumes for each application and before starting again this week, I wanted to ask if there's anything else I can try? Should I avoid a linear resume and add a related work section to the top highlighting the roles that apply and take out anything that doesn't showcase that background from the other positions? Thank you!