This morning I saw a post on one of the groups that I am in where someone talked about how reaching your goals isn't about being able to find the time. She said that the time is always there and it's just about you prioritizing what it is that you really want. For her that meant being able to juggle a very busy job, a lot of kids, and still finding time to work out and prioritize her nutrition. While I applaud her being able to reach her goals, and I think it's great that she manages to make this time, the more I think about this the more I feel like this approach is kind of toxic. To be clear, I'm not saying that the girl who said this is toxic.
What I mean is that I think this approach to life is toxic. It puts crazy expectations on people and paints people who might be in a different point of their lives or in another mindset as being lazy or undedicated or too unorganized. The truth of the matter is that we are all doing the best we can with our lives at every minute of every day. If you are in a phase of your life where you are managing to exercise every day or eat more vegetables or whatever else is on that checklist of things that "good people" do then I am really happy for you. but there are so many people out there, including me at many points of my life, who are doing everything they can and are just able to get up in the morning, to get dressed and maybe sometime shower. The idea that anyone who isn't making time for fitness is lacking in literally any way completely ignores everything from grief and mental illness to just the seasons of life as they come.
I guess all of this is just to say that I hope everyone is honoring where they are in their lives right this minute, and not holding themselves up to the mirror of what other people are able to accomplish right now. It is an unprecedentedly hard time in the world right now, and so many of us are dealing with loss and fear and financial hardship. Right now is the season to hold on to what is good in our lives, to focus on making the world a better place for others, and the rest of it can just fall into place as it will. So, if right now you aren't exercising, or you haven't eaten a vegetable in a week, or all you can manage to do is put on pants in the morning, it's okay. You're doing a great job.