I was recently passed over for promotion by a straight able-bodied man with less experience.
July 16,2021 at 2:03PM UTC
I don't think by any means that I'm overreacting by leaving the organization (I'm in the process of interviewing for multiple roles) but I want to know at what point others would have left an organization.
For background, my former boss/mentor/director left the organization in March and was replaced by my new boss, lets call him John. I had applied for the director position; however, John was more qualified. I understood and respected the choice but was slightly snubbed that I wasn't given the professional courtesy of an interview for a position in my own department. John brought up the fact that I had applied for the position on multiple occasions afterward and each time I clarified that due to his experience, he was the obvious choice.
A month or so later, we move offices and I put up pride flags at my new desk; John made an insensitive comment about the flags that I chose to ignore because I believe it was not his intent to offend.
About a month after that incident, my boss pulls me into his office to tell me that my coworker, lets call him Jim, was going to be promoted to manager over me. I didn't even know they were creating a new manager position in the department. He then waited over a week to announce the promotion.
Jim started as an intern a few months after I had started in an entry level role in our current organization; I also had over 2 years of experience in another entry level role (same title) prior to starting here so I have nearly twice the amount of experience he does. We were both promoted to a senior level role at the same time in early 2020. The cherry on top, Jim's father is on the board of directors.
Because I did not know about the position being created and there was no application process, I didn't feel there was a need to inform me that I wasn't being promoted prior to the formal announcement. I submitted a request with HR to check if this was standard practice, I never got an answer.
I raged at home and to my friends (none of whom work for this organization), and tried not to let it effect my work but a week after Jim's promotion, John put the final nail in the coffin for me. John and Jim's offices are right next to each other and I have to pass both of them as I come into the office. I typically say good morning to them both, not individually, as I go to my cubicle. In my weekly meeting with John the next day, he suggest that because I did not specifically say good morning to Jim, I must be mad at him for getting promoted and he needed to make sure that we could all be civil in the office together; I had not said or indicated to anyone in the organization at that point about my displeasure. I told him I would never be mad at someone else for getting promoted because I know that they do not control how or when they get promoted.
His tone in both the meeting to inform me of my Jim's promotion and in this meeting felt misogynist, and he treated me as if I was overly emotional. I have truly never been more insulted in a professional setting. I, again, reported this to HR to at the very least, have a paper trail. They suggested we "talk it out." I started applying for new jobs that night.
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