Remorseful:

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October 14,2022 at 1:52PM UTC

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Remorseful:

I finally got a job offer. Decent pay...but finding a place to live has been a challenge AND my vehicle is driving really rough now and I would need the vehicle to do the job which is in another state. I've put almost 2000 in my vehicle in regards to repairs and it's still doing the same thing. I would have a long commute where I would be housed temporarily and my concern is if my vehicle will make it. I haven't officially started the job yet and I am now considering rescinding my acceptance of the position. It would be the most money that I have ever made on a job and I can't believe that I am considering having to turn it down. I need the money but I am also trying to mindful of other things like the commute and the current state of my car. I am a person of faith but I am also aware of the possibility that if something major happens to my car that I would not be able to work as I need to. I have to make my decision this weekend. I just dont want to feel like I am stuck where I am at and get depressed. There are no jobs here because it's a rural town. Everyone has to commute out to other cities to shop and work. I recently started some gig work driving to make ends meet, but I really need a good fulltime job with good pay. I don't want to be fearful of a vehicle tearing up. I even considered sleeping in my car at one point to be closer to the job until I found something but even if the car tore up Rideshares would be too expensive and I don't think it would be good practice or acceptable go do home visits through a rideshare. Anyway I'm sure my grey roots are happy they got some energy this week from all of my worrying. I can't even say this is a faith over fear matter. I'm just trying to be real. I'm so torn.

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JJOctober 14,2022 at 2:53PM UTC
Start the job. Hope for the best. Face that challenge when it actually arrives instead of creating it out of thin air. If the car fails, talk to your boss and then make the next decision. I have had some crappy cars that ran on good luck for months. Wishing you safe and happy travels to your new, high-paying job!
AnonymousOctober 14,2022 at 3:40PM UTC
Listen to your gut.
AnonymousOctober 14,2022 at 3:49PM UTC
Take the job and save as much as you can. If the car breaks down, sometimes the place you take the car to will provide you with a loaner car to use while they repair it. Alternatively, if your car isn't worth fixing, you can sell it. Lots of people and businesses buy cars for car parts.
If you end up carless, you might be able to rent a car in the city that your job is in until you get a different car. If you have a good driving record, you might also look into leasing a car. I'm not sure about rates at the moment, but leasing a car can be cheaper than taking out a loan and paying for a car outright.
Are there people in your area that travel into the same city as your job? If so, maybe they can take you into the city and then you use a different car for these home visits that you have to do.
There are lots of things you can do if your car breaks down. Hopefully, it waits long enough that you're able to deposit a couple of paychecks from your new awesome job. Good luck! :)
AnonymousOctober 14,2022 at 4:11PM UTC
I did this once and ended up renting a room at a local university- surprisingly a lot of people are doing this now - I worked as a nurse and was with med students- had washer / dryer and I put a microwave and small fridge in room and only paid a couple hundred bucks. Was the greatest but allowed me to reevaluate everything and I ended up in retirement!! So it all worked out ? also - great way to learn the city and what people thought of the hospital (employer) you can Google search room for rent or even Airbnb for cheap rate on long term rent
AnonymousOctober 17,2022 at 2:47PM UTC
So many good ideas here. The universe is giving you a huge opportunity that clearly doesn’t come along often. Your fear is getting in your way. Dig deep and believe, put on your big-girl pants and be resourceful. You can do this.
AnonymousOctober 21,2022 at 2:15PM UTC
I say go for it?
See if you can rent a room from someone that is closer to your job since it pays well. Or if it pays well get a newer car! Don’t let fear keep you from advancing yourself! I have rented out my lower level of my house to a student before; perhaps you will be lucky as well!
AnonymousOctober 23,2022 at 6:04PM UTC
Check local churches if you are plugging into the new community and rent a room from someone.
Invest in a new or gently used reliable vehicle at a low apr. Take the job!
I found a job further away needing vehicle after 10 yrs at prior job thinking I'd retire there. I've been at new job 2+ yrs now, love it, paid off my car, had huge rent increase, but still able to save money by being very thrifty. Bring own lunch to work, do errands in a group not far from home or around workplace before drive home, etcetera. Current job also pays more than I've ever made in my life. And oh, I color my own hair with same products my hairdresser uses. She charges over 100 now so she kindly gave me the info and I order professional quality color from walmart.com fir 21 per box and developer from Sally's.
Best of luck to you!
Christine Brush, MSW, MBAOctober 26,2022 at 6:21PM UTC
I'm going to another state in three days for a new job. I'm over 55, tired and afraid but I need this position.
Go to Roomies.com and look for a roommate situation. I got one pretty fast, and it's a temporary way to get into a new area and have time to look around.
If you need to, have your car towed to the new destination with your moving vehicle, and fly or bus to your new place.
You will probably need a storage shed while rooming, so downsize to the minimum, or find people who will watch your stuff there, and move it later to the new place.
Don't quit! It's hard but you can do this. Just get creative, and make it a great adventure!