Last year, I went through divorce and diagnosed depression/anxiety. During this time, I had a rocky relationship with my boss who I’ve been working with for more than 5 years and had been given me 3 performance ratings (exceeding expectations) for the past two years. Our bonus payment is sorely based on the performance review and I’ve been getting more than 2x of my target bonus I bathe past years.
She knows I want a promotion and she couldn’t offer me one. Then I told her I was demotivated and would love to continue working with her on my development plan. She said if promotion is the most important thing that I’m looking for, maybe I should look elsewhere. I then asked her if any chance I can take a break to pick myself up since I was also burned out.
Then two weeks later, she came back with two options - a 2 month PIP or a standard severance package for 2 weeks per year of my tenure. I consulted my lawyer and doctor then decided to take a FMLA leave to care for my mental health.
Two months later when I was back to work, she pressed both options again, which I chose PIP since I was close to my year end bonus payment.
During these two months, she continues to sabotage my performance, manipulating the PIP process by ignoring partial if not all my wins and record mistakes from my team to my PIP. She used exactly same verbiage in my year end review and rated me as 1, and ignored all positive feedback from my x-functional teams. I reported this to HR and nothing happened. She continues to cancel our 1:1 and doesn’t provide constructive feedback but pointing fingers to me on every error happens from my team even it was trivial.
I’m extremely stressed and now I’m at the end of the PIP, which she continues to state I’m ‘partially’ meeting the expectation regardless how hard I work. Ironically, I was getting 3 in my performance review for the same job in the past years, and this year I got an ‘1.’
What would you do in this situation to protect yourself? Would you report every unfair treatments and biases to HR? I know finding the next job will be the priority but given the market situation, I may be out of the field for awhile if I lose this job now. Alternatively, anyone has advice of negotiating an exit package? I believe the unethical conduct and discrimination (I’m an Asian descent and my manager actually once told me she’s never worked with people like me before) are evidenced in this case.
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I am looking for a job due to business unit desition they are shutting down our entire Marketing team.
Please reach out to me. I have more than 12yrs experience.
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I'm wrapping up my toxic job this Friday
Throughout my tenure, my manager has proven to be one of the worst I've ever encountered. Despite my temporary status in the position, I've accumulated nearly five years of experience leading teams.
It became apparent early on that she lacked leadership experience, having transitioned from journalism to communications without a background in marketing. Despite my efforts to engage her in defining our team's vision, roles, and operations, she consistently resisted. Matters escalated when she began circulating rumours about me to an external government department, which eventually reached both me and the team. One team member bravely came forward to disclose the situation.
In response, I initiated a leadership program that included a Hogan 360 review. Unfortunately, my manager's lack of experience led her to underestimate the consequences of her actions, including the revelation that I would review her results. The discrepancies between her scores and those of her colleagues were stark. In areas where I excelled, she marked me as "NA," while in areas where she perceived she could manipulate me, such as "is a respectful person," she rated me highly. This manipulation only added insult to injury, reinforcing a toxic dynamic where compliance was prioritised over genuine feedback.
Through therapy, I've come to terms with the trauma of this experience and now find myself filled with a righteous anger.
Despite these challenges, I've managed to secure an excellent new role that surpasses both my temporary position and my manager's role. My focus now shifts to ensuring she never has the opportunity to exert power over me again.
Should I email HR and document my grievances, even though I'm leaving on Friday?
Is writing a scathing Glassdoor review an appropriate course of action?
Should I bring my concerns to the attention of the government department or the CEO? Would blocking her on mobile and LinkedIn offer some peace of mind?
What would you do?
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How much negotiation is reasonable?
At the beginning of the process, very rich company said their budget was 80-90k. I said that was below my desired salary but would be willing to learn more about the total compensation, etc. I was laid off a few months ago and making 115k - I was hoping to at least come close but this market is insane. It's the same job responsibilities but this new job's title is "lower" in the industry hierarchy.
Anyway - I was offered the job - yay! They offered 90k and I found out their benefits are not great. No 401k match, no bonus, couple weeks PTO.
I'm happy they offered me the top end of their budget. I need a job so I'll take it but... what can I work with here? I clearly can't come in saying I want 115k.
All insight appreciated. Thank you.
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Can you guys help me out?
I'm preparing for a presentation and I need more feedback to this one question. Please! And, Thank you in advance!
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HR is my manager.
I work for a small company and my reporting manager is HR. My manager is extremely unprofessional, dismissive and combative. Should I talk to the CEO or just start looking for a new job?
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I am turning a new leaf in life. For some backstory I've been at a job I hate for about a year now- it's my first 'big girl' job out of college- I broke up with the man I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with at the beginning of the year, and struggle with anxiety which was only exasperated by the previous mentioned. I've never been so low.
So at the beginning of February, I took a step back. From everything. From the grief of the break up, from the job search I started in March of last year, from worrying so much about my job and how terrible it makes me feel. Literally from everything. For the first time in a long time, I feel like I can breathe and refocus.
I'm jumping back into the job search next month because I know the misery from my current job will soon take over again, but as of right now, this is the most optimistic I have felt in months.
Now that I've gotten all of that venting out of the way, I'd love to hear how you all stay positive in tough times in the professional space? And how do you make sure it doesn't affect your work, interviews, etc? I consistently see others seeking advice on obtaining jobs and the current job market, but I'd like advice on maintaining a positive attitude when times get tough personally and professionally. Because I didn't fair well the first time around.
Hopefully, this all makes sense. All advice, words of encouragement, and everything in between are welcome.