What does it mean when someone says to a woman that she is “not a personality fit?”
October 4,2021 at 1:27PM UTC
Is that just a way of discarding? Is that a way of swing that she is “emotional” without saying the word?
I work in a consulting setting where we engage with all sorts of office cultures. I’ve had a few demanding clients who didn’t know what they want. When I began to gather requirements, they expected me to make them up on their behalf. So I did and got their feedback in daily and weekly increments. Noting the risks of that approach. Meanwhile, the client called me stupid. Etc.
My company said it was “not a personality match.” How can berating consultants be a personality match issue??
what is going on here? Why are they “messaging” it in that way?
Am I bring set up to take the fall for something?
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