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INSULTING AND IMMATURE BOSS
It's been 5 months since I started my Second Job at a LPG company. I got excited because it seemed like a competitive, has hard working employee and i could see that they are very serious about their job and it's really true.
On my first month my boss scolded me for not updating him about the requirements for travel for our Technicians. This job was given to my colleague and I really do not the idea about the concern. I just accepted all the insults and let it pass by since I believed he was just strict with those things.
1-3 months I noticed that he was so hypocrite. I am really sorry for the term but he really did not listen to his people. He cut out people when they needed to explain their side. He always believed he was right. He even insulted my Engineer that he has a big eyes but he can not get things right. Our Engineer is just a newbie but he always got humiliated in front of me. My boss was the one who told me that our Engr has a crush on me but I surely think that he intentionaly scolded him right IN FRONT OF ME.
My 4th month was the worst. I stayed in inside the company because they offered me a room to stay. It was really unsafe that it came the time that two thieves climb up my room at 3:00 am, opened my windows and tried to steal my bag using their hook. I really caught them in the act and i almost died of shock and nervousness. It was really traumatic but I suffered it alone without a proper counseling from our HR. No one talked to me even my boss like nothing happened. I let things pass by again hoping that I could still overcome things and move on. But the next one really hurt me. I had a Tuberculosis and I told my boss about my situation so that when I needed to absent for my consultation, atleast he would know when I will take my leave for my consultation. He insulted me with my disease. God, i did not ask for this. He told me "that is why you apply here because you have a disease?" "You should ask your Doctor, Doc, if i eat more will I become fat?" things like that. Imagine him saying those hurtful words with a smile and enjoyment in his face.
I really can not take the attitude of my boss. I do not know what to do. I am afraid that I could not achieve the job that I will be happy because I do not have a degree. I only have a college diploma and I am stuck with my boss until now. I always think of it all the time and it's really stressing me out.
Anonymous
11/04/20 at 12:57AM UTC
Hi I was the one who wrote this. Thank you for all the care you have given to me. I tried to give my boss a resignation letter but he did not accepted it. He will allow me if my colleague will come back after her maternity leave. I also have Engineer with the same job description but he does not trust our Engineer. I really want to move forward because this job is slowly killing my happiness.
Anonymous
10/29/20 at 1:33PM UTC
Sorry to read this, please remain strong and as suggested document all interactions with your boss and as Eve mentioned, with witnesses to the possible extent. I don't think he will change, but try not to give him any power nor further consideration to his comments. To me this is a clear Ethics & compliance case that should be filed in due time at your company. I would recommend talking to colleagues you trust and start exploring options outside this company if this kind of behaviours remain being tolerated. About not having the right education for the next move - is there a possibility to carve out time to study online to earn the degree you are mentioning?
Eve Koopmann Odar
Thoughtful people leader, mom and wife
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10/29/20 at 11:58AM UTC
It sounds like a terrible environment - I am sorry. I would add two more suggestions - first, make sure you are giving direct factual feedback to your boss - it is the first question anyone will ask "did you tell him you didn't like it, or found it degrading?" and second, my firm has a hotline that you can call when you are not getting the results from management or HR, it is anonymous. Please look to see if your organization has one and use it with specific documented examples with dates and witnesses if possible. And yes, start looking, no one deserves to go to a job everyday that stresses them out and makes them feel bad. We deserve an environment that lifts us up, motivates and drives us to success - so that when we leave, we can pass on that goodness to everyone around us.
Anonymous
10/29/20 at 10:57AM UTC
Be strong. Be considerate. Be respectful. I’m in a toxic environment like most everyone else who’s here. I’m not going to quit or to be terminated. As a good friend and former supervisor would say, Don’t let anyone steal your joy.
You’re there for a reason. Change the scenario with your Boss. Be proactive. You can change the narrative. Yes, I could share shocking stories about the crap that they do. He might be more afraid of you than you are of him. You’re intelligent, smart and relatable. Keep track of what is happening as previously mentioned though to cover yourself.
Anonymous
10/29/20 at 10:12AM UTC
I am so very sorry for the mistreatment & trauma you are suffering . Document everything. Can you move and are you looking for a new job? Know you can defend yourself respectfully to the person you report too. HR probably will continue to be useless, however, for the future , their non-response in the light of an abusive employee will be recognized should you file a complaint with the EEOC.
You're not alone. Keep your head held high, a good person and deserve better. Start looking.
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