Tips for creating trust with a new boss needed.

Tips for creating trust with a new boss needed. I have worked at my current company for 7 years, we have been reorganized in the past year and eliminated some jobs, created others. It was a VERY stable company where people spend their entire careers, literally we had an employee put in 55 years of service). That has begun to change and about half of our workforce is no longer "lifers".

I have reported into 2 people in my time here and the 2nd one and I did not mesh well. It got to the point I was put into a training program with a coach because I was deemed too direct, too critical, too blunt and too straight forward without emotion. That 2nd boss ended up hiring someone to be a layer between her and I (and some other direct reports). I really like this new (3rd) boss, but I am super worried Boss2 will try to ruin my reputation with her. I tend to be a straight shooter which is how the Boss3 introduced herself and I can tell she is forward, truthful even if it hurts and all business. That is NOT the culture of our company.

The Boss3 has already made comments to me about how Boss2 is making poor emotionally driven decisions which conflict with the work Boss3 is doing. I am sort of sitting back saying "yeah tell me something I don't know". I want to help her navigate the landmines being laid for her but I don't know how to do it without being too negative or coming off like I am trying to create problems.

An example, Boss2 tasked me with a project before Boss3 was hired, it's expected to take a year but due to forces outside my control within the company, we will be lucky to complete in 3 years if ever. Boss3 is already on me for status updates and doesn't understand why I haven't made more progress. I shared with her some of the challenges, mostly related to other departments/people not being willing to do their part/make decisions/provide information and she immediately ran it up the flag pole to Boss2. Boss2 told her to simmer down, sort of a slap on the wrist. I can tell Boss3 was taken aback, she was hired to implement these sort of projects and changes.

Boss3 keeps asking me for insight and I am trying to be very careful because I don't want to say anything negative about Boss2 or anything else.

Tips or tricks? I really like Boss3 but I don't know how long before she pisses off Boss2 and either gets knocked down a peg and responsibilities taken away or fired outright or quits.

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  1. Serp Rivleau

    Have you spoken openly with Boss3 about all this and your existing relationship with Boss2 yet?
    Perhaps finding a moment to grab a coffee and talk over the situation, including your own uncertainty about it, might help Boss3 to understand where you're coming from and find ways to navigate their own position which make more sense. It sounds like neither of you have the full picture, which must be infuriating, and maybe just sharing *that* might help.

    Of course, like any words, they cannot be taken back, so I can understand and would absolutely encourage thinking about it carefully and mulling it over thoroughly.

  2. Anonymous

    It's not to your benefit not really your role to provide insight. All you can do is share some fundamentals with her like process, factual history and support her decisions. You need to set boundaries while being supportive in your role.

  3. Anonymous

    Agreed with setting boundaries. Have you put any in place thus far?

  4. Liz

    The question you may want to ask youself is "Why do I want to stay at this Company?" It sounds like the culture is changing as these organizational changes are being made. If you have some good examples of what worked for you when you reported to Boss 2, you might share them with Boss 3. I encourage you to stay away from being critical or negative about Boss 2 with Boss 3.

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